You Is What You Is

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Registered: 02-26-2011
You Is What You Is
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 2:25am

Third and final date with the Yogi tonight.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 2:08pm

That was then today there is great pressure to be all-in-one.

dragowoman

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:48am

I don't think men have nearly the same amount of pressure to please others as we do.

I totally agree about "pressure to please." Also known as:
Be compliant
Don't make a fuss
Don't call attention to yourself
Be pleasant
Don't be aggressive
Be motherly all the time
Don't be competitive
Be selfless
Don't overshadow your man

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:26pm

With no disrespect intended to the guys here, I have to say, Shy, that I think they are under a HUGE amount of pressure to look good, make money, all the things xxxs and Crossing have mentioned.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:26pm
You guys who think there's as much pressure on men to look good- pay attention the next time you see a diet commercial. Count how many women there are vs men. Next time you're in line at the grocery store, check out the covers of magazines. How many half-naked women vs men? How many male models do you hear of who are far too thin?

I agree that there is generally more pressure on men to be successful. More of that pressure is being shifted to women, though, as two income households become more and more necessary. I also think that women put far more pressure on each other than men put on each other. Women can be far more cruel to each other than men sometimes.
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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:18pm

Oh! Really?

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:09pm

I agree with you, Crossing, with one exception:

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Registered: 06-01-2008
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 6:26pm

"I don't think men have nearly the same amount of pressure to please others as we do."

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:20pm
A man who makes less than I do probably wouldn't be able to help support a family. He'd have to be close to my salary (probably within $5-10,000) or it would be really tough. I struggle with my bills on my own, and that's just feeding me in a two bedroom house and no car payment.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:10pm

i was thinking of you yesterday when I was in the Barnes & Noble cafe and saw a gentleman in his 60's who not only had a nice french cuff shirt, but it was also monogrammed.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 3:02pm

Well, there's the issue of whether or not most women could be happy dating a guy who makes less

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