Younger women - Older men

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Younger women - Older men
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:52am
Another posting had some women expressing frustration about older men only wanting younger women. That started me thnking about the women that date those old men. Are there any of those younger women here? More interesting to me, is this question: Are there women here that are older now, but dated older guys when they were younger? We all know why guys date younger girls, but why do younger girls date older guys?
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:26pm

Sometimes I find early 20s men/boys attractive as well, but it's very unlikely I'd date someone that young - for the same reasons you listed about the early 20s girls.

This issue has come up on the board before in various forms. It's not the looking and appreciating part that gets me, but a 20+-year age difference seems to me to be a huge obstacle in creating a relationship.

Before everyone freaks out, that does not mean there are not exceptions to the rule - I know there are successful relationships between people who have a wide age gap, but I doubt I'll ever be in one.

For me, I tend to have the most in common with men late 20s to late 30s.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:27pm

When I was 21, I had a short fling with a 40 year old (single) partner at the law firm I was working at. He was nice-looking and fun, but I hate to admit it...the primary attraction was him taking me out to nice places I couldn't afford on my $12K a year in NYC paralegal salary (and that most guys in my age range couldn't afford either). What can I say, I was 21! But I fairly quickly decided that the money issue wasn't worth it (he wasn't into clubbing like I was ;-), plus the fact that we were co-workers made it complicated) and went back to dating guys in my own general age range.

Sheri

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:30pm
When I was twenty-four, I dated a thirty-six year old. I guess the reason I dated him was because he was more mature than any of the twenty-somethings I did dated. With that being said though, his age was never really a factor with me because we just connected emotionally. But it was never really about dating an older guy, even though some of my friends had a big problem with it.
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:47pm

Good question.

Cause I'm nearly 28 and the very idea of dating a guy 35+ geeks me out. I just feel that we won't have enough in common or that there will be a huge generation gap. I went out with a 38 year old recently and we were in two different worlds.

Where he seemed like he was looking for another wife, I'm still partying, drinking and goofing off with friend every weekend. Not an ideal match.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 1:48pm
Ok, I replied to this!!!
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 2:19pm

When I was younger, I preferred dating older men (10 years or so difference) because I had more in common with them than guys my age.

I had my own business and lots of responsibilities - 22 year old guys were into partying. So being an established business woman with firm goals at a young age, I tended to find established men with firm goals were older by a least 8 or so years.

Now, at 40, I usually date guys a bit younger, because guys 40 and up seem to not want to keep up with me...they are happy playing golf or watching baseball on TV. The problem I now run into is that I have no desire for more children, and it's the rare childless 35 year old who feels the same way.

Edited for REALLY poor grammar.




Edited 2/2/2006 2:21 pm ET by sisfox


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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 2:27pm
I don't date older men exclusively but I do date older men. I am 32 and the last man that I was intimate with and dated for awhile is 45. I tend to date older men because of the things that I like to do. I like to go to the symphony and attend lectures and go to museums and take architectural tours. I just tend to find more men who share my interests in that age range. That's why I date older men. But when I dfind men my age who appreciate similar things, then I will date them as well. I do not date younger men, though. It is rare to find a mature man who knows what he wants in his 20s.
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 7:03pm

I ate it.

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 7:07pm

I dated older men when I was in high school because the guys my age were just plain disgusting.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 8:43pm

I had a response I posted to you earlier today but it never posted.