Your first love

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Your first love
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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 3:32am

Ok I was just thinking about my first love and all the memories I have of her and so I was just curious about everyone else's first love

Who was it and when was it? How do they compare to the ppl you have been involved with since and what do you remember most about them?

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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 7:51am

Mine was Mike.

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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 10:01am

My first love is my exhusband.

My most prominent memory is him cheating on me and us divorcing.
Will he always have a small place in my heart, sure. Would I ever want to get together with him. NO.

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Deirdre

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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 1:11pm

My first love was just after my senior year of high school. He was (still is) a singer/songwriter and played guitar (always my weakness).

He was a lot more carefree and fun than the people I've dated since, but that probably is due to the age factor.

What I remember most is that he made me take life less seriously - always a struggle for me - and that he made me feel like the most interesting/cool person on the planet. He had a knack for making people feel special.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 5:41pm

I met him in '96. I was about 23 years old. He was visiting TN from NJ. I went to see my (our) friend and there he was. I was instantly smitten. He was very charming. What I remember most about him was his innate ability to make people feel special, including myself.

I've dated quite a bit but I haven't bonded with anyone, as I did with him, since. We had a very special connection. I'm sure everyone feels that way. We'd finish each others sentences, start laughing at the same time at something which no one else found remotely funny, etc.

What about yours? (I haven't read all of the posts yet, you may have already answered that question)

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 9:13am

My first love (I was 15, so it was TEENAGE LOVE - you know how that is) was in HS. My junior year at a new school and this sophomore was really cute... Swatch shades pushed back on his head (I SO just dated myself!), athletic...


anyway, we didn't hook up till my senior year, and I found out he was a good kisser as well. (pant pant drool, cartoon heart thumping)


He cheated on me when I left for college, and then we went to war. I plastered "I'm a lyin' cheater" signs on his car windows one night...that was the mild stuff...


And for some reason, I was still attracted to him. Bless his heart, the boy wasn't book smart (he was a year older than me and a year behind me in school), but I wonder now who the dummy was... 'cause I would take him back each time he asked.


I've since come to my senses. Now I got the REAL LOVE, the Barry White love - "my first, my last, my everything".

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 12:36pm
I enjoyed reading that . . . you're funny, girl.
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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 12:59pm

Y'know, I really don't know who my "first love" was. I've had a countless number of crushes that went nowhere, and only 3 boyfriends before the one I'm with now. The first boyfriend wasn't all that great - I was infatuated with him, but it was no great love. My next boyfriend I was with for 4 years and even lived with him and wanted to marry him, but looking back, there really was no "great love" there, either. Looking back, I loved him, but when I compare it to how I feel about my current boyfriend, it pales in comparison. (Until I met my current boyfriend, I did kind of feel like my ex was "the one who got away).

Boyfriend # 3 was just NOT love. He was a time-filler. And a loser to boot. There's no lost love feeling there.

Now, my current boyfriend is the one who I have that special connection with that you've all described. We both often think the same things at the same time - one of us will say something and the other will say, "I was just going to say that!" We both like country, classic rock, and southern rock music along with "a little of everything else," he actually likes to dance with me (we've talked about taking lessons together), we're both kind of messy people, we both even have similar heritage: we both have Polish and Scottish in our lineage.

I know it's only been three months, but I just "love him to pieces," and I've never said that about ANYONE. Sure, three months isn't a long time. But I'm still going to enjoy the ride for as long as it lasts. :)













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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 3:42pm

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Sat, 04-07-2007 - 4:18pm

I met my first love when I was 14, and for 2 years, I pined over him like a lost puppy dog. We were friends, then enemies, and back and forth...we'd talk on the phone every night for months, hours at a time, then one of us would get mad and we wouldn't speak for months...then one simple phone call and everything was forgotten, the cycle doomed to repeat. This went on until he ran away at 16, and I never heard from him again...

Until a couple of months ago. I found him on mySpace, and we've been talking as if there wasn't 13 years in between our last conversation and this one.

He was the guy that I totally wanted to throw a big yellow raincoat over and protect from everything, that I would have laid down my life for...the one I put on a pedestal. We're a little more even now...but it's still not such a great combination...he's a musician, and I'm way more normal and stable than that! I'm not sure where it's going, but we're going out tomorrow night...so I guess we'll see...

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Sat, 04-07-2007 - 8:18pm

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Stacy, I can totally relate to your post. When I first read this I was thinking, hmmmm, who was mine? -- and the first one that popped into my mind was my first hard crush when I was a freshman in highschool. He was a senior in my homeroom -- so every morning I'd stare at the back of his head, waiting/pining for him to turn around and wink at me. He absolutely adored that I was gaga over him -- it was even a joke between him & his friends. I ended up riding a rollercoaster and making out with him once at the end of his Senior year, before he went away to college. And I have to say that was my first love :) aaaahhhh, to be young again!


I've had countless, & I do mean I could never count them!, boyfriends, crushes, relationships, fwb's, even husbands (only 2), etc., that have come and gone and yet I wouldn't class any of them the same way as that first unrequited puppylove. I would say that the man I've loved the most in my life was my recent exhusband. Unfortunately he was very controlling when we were married, and possibly emotionally abusive. I loved him very much and still do, but could not live with the man. We're still friends and still spend time with each other frequently. I don't think that kind of love can be easily dismissed, even if you choose not to be married anymore.


BTW, Antisexy - Great thread! Love reading