Is your life like this too?

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Is your life like this too?
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 8:06pm

I'm just curious how typical my life is to all of yours.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 8:34pm

I also work from home, but I work normal business hours. My work is so detailed and focused that I'm not effective after 8 hours. I hate working overtime, but I will occassionally, or I'll work one day over the weekend. Sometimes I wake up super early and start work (like 5 a.m.)

I take numerous breaks during the day. If I don't eat, I become SuperBitch--I've never understood people who say they forget to eat.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 8:36pm
In answer to your questions: yes, yes, and yes. I am 50, and I am definitely feeling the effects of achieving this milestone.

I am about 20 # over what I weighed when I looked my absolute best, in my early 40s. I can't seem to find the motivation to cook or work out more than 2x/week. Until it clicks in my brain to do those things for me, and not with the hope of attracting a desirable man, it isn't going to happen.

My commute is too long. And I really want to move back to the east coast (I am in the Midwest now). But my elderly mom wants me to stay in the Midwest. I am a free spirit and would be happy doing locum tenens (travel) work, but I feel this obligation to my family.

Since I am not at all shy anymore and am comfortable anywhere, I don't think travel would hurt my chances of meeting a man, if it were to happen.

But yeah, I relate. You are a bit younger than me, but the fatigue really did not hit me until this past birthday. I think I am just weary of the daily grind and dealing with toxic people everywhere, but especially in the workplace.

I, too, wonder what I would do if I actually DID have a man in my life that I wanted to be with. But I also like being busy so I don't have to contemplate too deeply what I may have done wrong in my life, or what I MAY be missing.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 9:11pm
Yep, my life is that way, too. This time of year is worse, plus May is bad too. There are a lot of late nights this time of year.

I should exercise more, but I'm exhausted when I get home. Plus my heel is still sore (since June, but I haven't gone to the doctor yet).

I'd have room for a guy if there was one, but sometimes it's nice not to have to worry about that.

I am tired, but I'm less tired now since I've been taking iron, B12, and D. Even a regular multivitamin doesn't cut it for me.

I just got home and all I want to do right now is veg!
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 10:31pm

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 10:31pm

Actually my life is not like that because I made tradeoffs to get a job that was not all consuming.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 10:38pm
Music, I was pre-law my freshman year in college. I was convinced that was what I wanted to do. Halfway through my first year, I changed my major to undeclared for the reasons you didn't take a full time job. I didn't want my job to consume my life or interfere with creating a family. That plan didn't work out so well! I work in a female dominated field where I meet no men, spent just as much time in school, work long hours, and get far less pay!
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 11:36pm

Glean, this sentence pierced my heart and resonated deeply:

I also like being busy so I don't have to contemplate too deeply what I may have done wrong in my life, or what I MAY be missing.

I think I have to admit at this point that I have a bona fide addiction to my work. And for that very reason: it helps me not think about the parts of my life I don't like and don't have the energy to fix right now.

And I must append this to my original post: