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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 7:01am
Hello iVillagers. I'm new here. 30yr old, green about dating and need your suggestions about this one.

3 weeks ago I met a fellow internet chatter for drinks.Before leaving he took me totally by surprise with a tonguey kiss.Ok we had a good time but nothing that warranted such a 'forward' kiss and I moved away from him. The guy was taken aback at my behaviour and just said a chummy 'keep in touch'. Some days later I texted him to say thanks for the meeting. He's texted me twice since to wish me a happy weekend. Today though I received a text saying would I like to meet him again? I replied 'would be nice to meet for a chat and reciprocate drinks'. I don't think it'll lead to anything from my part cos no chemistry.Should I tell him specifically when we meet that it's a 'friends' only thing?
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Registered: 03-20-2003
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 7:07am

Honestly, I wouldn't meet him at all.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 7:38am
I wouldn't waste my time if he is not a potential date and I have to say, to me a date asked for by text message would be a turn off - what happened to a personal invitation by phone?
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Registered: 04-21-2003
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 10:46pm
I don't think I would meet for a 2nd date if there was no chemistry in the first, but if you do, definitely let him know its just as friends (before going). I have only met one man from internet dating, and at the end of the date he asked me if he could have a hug. I agreed, and was pleased that he actually asked me first. But, there was no chemistry on my part, and though I thought I would probably go out with him again, I realized the next day that I should not. It would only lead to heartbreak on his part, and I didn't want to do that to him. The next day I thanked him for the date, and let him know I was not ready to be involved with just one guy. He gave me his best wishes, and we have had no more contact.