Zero attachment, zero anxiety

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Zero attachment, zero anxiety
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 8:23am

Saw this wonderful piece from Martha Beck:

http://marthabeck.com/2011/08/zero-attachment-zero-anxiety-insight-from-martha/

Excerpt:

When the temperature of a day reaches the dew point, the moisture in the air, which is invisible to the eye, suddenly appears everywhere. It was always there; it just needed a certain temperature to become visible. Similarly, everything we need to make us happy is waiting for the “temperature” of our inner life to create the dew point where it can become material form. The dew point temperature of all your desires is a feeling of normalcy. It is not high excitement, nor grasping, nor yearning. All of those emotions contain anxiety and attachment — try them right now, you’ll see.


To give you an example of what this feels like, think about the feeling you have watching a beautiful sunrise. You may experience awe and intense gratitude, but you will not be thunderstruck, amazed or hysterical. A sunrise is glorious, but it is normal. We aren’t attached to the sun continuing to shine because we are sure it will.

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 10:03am

I think I get what you posted and it does hold true but to a certain degree.. Like you said you worked your tail off to get where you are now..That through your hard work paid off. It didnt just fall in

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 10:42am

I'm still exploring this, but I don't interpret detachment as "sitting back and doing nothing." I don't see it as magical thinking or The Secret. I will not be sitting at home waiting for a man to knock on my door. I will continue to do the activities I have always done and then some--but I am seeking meaning and connection in a broad sense, not just finding a man. I'm also exploring the work of another author, Brene Brown. Check out this link and click on "Vulnerability is the key to joy"

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:03am

I don't necessarily think that everything we need is just right there waiting for us to see it, but I do think that more of us need to be looking for normalcy in relationships and not that "high" feeling that we mistake for love.

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:14am
Interesting stuff. Thanks for posting this. :)
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:30am

Beautiful, evocative post, Florida!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:32am

Shy: Yes it is.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:36am

Tolle's a very cool guy. You might get more from "A New Earth".

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:48am

I think I know what you are saying about being attached to the outcome.

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:52am

oh; I get it but I dont understand what you mean when you say "seeking meaning and connection in a broad sense".

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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:53am

Hmmm, maybe in my free time this weekend, I'll dream of the perfect man, but I don't know how I'd stop thinking about that one.

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