10-hr Date

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Registered: 06-04-2004
10-hr Date
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Sun, 09-16-2007 - 10:34am

I love it! It was great to be able to spend such a long time with my Hiker yesterday. :-)


We had plans to do lunch and then he wanted to teach me to hit some golf balls. That seemed like a "thing" he has been suggesting for a month or so, but not really pushing for it. He just felt like I could do it, and have fun with it, and then WE could have that to do together (play golf).


Now, I am not a person who has ever wanted to learn to play golf, or thought I would ever be good at it! I have not tried to swing a club in my entire life, and my only experience with golf has been playing putt-putt. lol And while Hiker has not forced the issue, he has casually tossed the idea out there often enough for me to notice, and being the perceptive person I am (lol), I got the message!


So yesterday we went to a driving range to see how things would go. I can't say I wasn't a bit nervous about it all. Walking right into a situation where I could be embarrassing myself totally, where he could be embarrassed by me (lol) and where he might end up disappointed that I didn't like or was horrible at doing something he enjoyed alot. But thankfully it all did go well, although it was quite awkward-feeling on my part! He taught me how to hold the clubs, how to swing... at least as much as he could with just talking. But for me to REALLY learn, there was no way but to just DO it. And so we eventually ended up hitting over 120 balls. His went FAR, and I was impressed! He talks like he is such a mediocre golfer- but if he does it as one of his hobbies, he can't be THAT bad! And he can swing! Me, on the other hand... I think I did okay for it being my very first time trying anything. LOL I surely need more practice, though hitting about 60 balls was quite alot of practice anyway! I'm SORE today from all of that yesterday!


But it was just cool- that I went and did something brand new with Hiker. I went beyond my comfort zone and did something that I could (and did at times) look like a total fool doing. And survived to tell about it. LOL And Hiker didn't leave me because of it! lol ;-) So while I didn't just fall in love with it enough to want to go hit balls by myself (as I would easily go geocaching by myself)- it is something that I think I would have fun doing with Hiker, once I got better at it. And had a bit more confidence about it.


But I do love it that he was willing to explore the world of geocaching with me, and while he isn't 'into' it enough to want to do it alone, he does like it enough to go on caching outings with me. And now we have this golfing thing- that I might not do on my own, but it will be something we can go do together now and then, too. I think that is the best part- that we are sharing with each other, our own passions and then making them into things we can do together. :-)


We also spent the rest of the day just hanging out together. Watching some college football, going shopping, having a casual dinner with dessert... and it was just plain NICE. It was like our date was more than over, but yet we didn't want to end the day or part. We just don't get to spend enough time together. Our weeks are so full with our own things (work, our own 24/7 kids, his grandkids) so our together time gets put off alot sometimes. These past few weeks have been some 'thin' times for our dates, but hopefully it won't be that way too much longer. I know that I've been the one to be "too busy" to get together lately, but I also know that it's temporary, too.


So that 10-hr date helped to make up for lost time!


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 12-28-2004
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:04am

I'm glad that you tried it and it's too cool that you have someone that sounds like he would laugh with you not at you. I'm really bad about NOT trying things for fear of looking silly. I don't like that about myself and have to really push myself to try new things.

I really do believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes we are all guilty of getting so caught up in responsibilities, obligations, etc. you have to actually MAKE TIME to have "together time". My schedule gets so crazy at times that I just have to let something go...it's usually cleaning the house. LOL

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 10:19pm
You guys are so lucky to have found eachother!!!

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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:48pm

How wonderful!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 10:22am
Good stuff!!!!! It is nice that you could find that big of a block of time!!