12 signs...

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12 signs...
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 9:46am
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 9:58am
That is a very good list. And perhaps easy to meet if the person is right - at least on most of them.
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:00am

Sometimes links stop working, so here's the text.


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How To Know If He Is The One
Submitted On 2007-04-27

12 Signs, He's The One


1. He understands.


He always tries to see your side of things. This means that even if he's seen you get upset or cry about something a hundred times before, he still tries to calm you down and makes you feel better.


2. He tells you.


Oh those three special words, the words some men have major trouble saying. Well, if he says them often, count yourself lucky. Hearing him say "I love you," and knowing he means every word, is proof that he's one of a kind.


3. He shows you.


We all know most men have trouble expressing their feelings with words. So, sometimes they use other forms of expression. Forms of expression include: taking you out for dinner when he thinks you need a break from cooking or understanding that you might need some time to yourself. While you may like to hear those sweet whispers of affection from him, it's a fact that actions speak louder than words.


4. He listens to you.


Is he's genuinely interested in what you're saying when you talk to him? Does he give you his undivided attention during your conversations, instead of having the television blaring in the background? It's an important sign, if he shows he's really concerned about your feelings, and especially what you have to say.


5. He's happy around you.


Smiles? Laughter? Excited to spend time with you and not his guy friends? Glad just to be with you? If he can't get enough of you, it's a sure sign that he's really attracted and in love.


6. He compliments you.


He notices when you change something about your appearance. He appreciates when you take the time to look great. When he looks you up and down admiringly with a little smile and tells you how beautiful you are, you know you matter.


7. He takes care of you.


Is he your own personal guardian angel? Does he baby you when you're sick and nurse you back to health? If the answer is 'yes', then it's a pretty sure bet you've got a good thing going.


8. His friends and family like you.


You can gauge how a man feels about you from the way his circle of friends and family treat you. If you are held in high regard, and they have embraced you like one of their own, it's a fact he's been telling them how happy he is to have you in his life.


9. He appreciates you:


Telling you how proud he is of your achievements or praising you to his family and friends is a wonderful signal. It's a sign he is in deep appreciation of who you are to him.


10. He asks for your opinion.


He asks for your advice, considers it and may put it to good use. When important decisions are at stake concerning him, he doesn't just go ahead and decide on his own what he thinks is right.


11. He's interested in what you want too.


Let's say you're both watching television and you want to watch Desperate Housewives while he'd like to catch 24. You know how men are when it comes to the remote control! If he lets you watch your show of choice, not in a grudging manner, but because he wants you to be happy, you've got a winner. Give him extra points if he actually sits through it with you!


12. He makes you feel special.


Finally, is he the kind of guy who's always trying to keep the romance alive? Bringing you flowers or breakfast in bed are both really wonderful ways to know he cares. If he's always going out of his way to make you feel exceptional hold on tight, the man is a keeper.


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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:06am

K- I will play. Have to play more from the X point b/c there isnt really any SO at this point.


12 Signs, He's The One


1. He understands.


He always tries to see your side of things. This means that even if he's seen you get upset or cry about something a hundred times before, he still tries to calm you down and makes you feel better.


*** Well, lets say that when it was REALLY bad, X understood. He would try to comfort me. When my mom died he was REALLY good. (well, except for once about 3 mo b4 she died & we were in a fight & he said something horrible like "your mothers going to be dead soon anyway" ..... UGH. One of the things i will NEVER forgive him for)

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:16am
WOW I should take some time today and just sit with how lucky that post made me feel. He does all of those things. His sisters are insane as you know but one of them seems to be warming to me and his friends all like me - that was the only one I had a question mark on.
Sometimes I have to admit he will look at me when I am working and say "ok tell me something. What is your own personal happiness right now? Dinner, movie, nap, lets make it happen." The British accent doesnt hurt either. It feels like I have my own personal love butler!lol
It used to make me giggle because honestly nobody has ever asked me that but now I realize how wonderful it is. And lucky for him most of the time my personal happiness hinges on DS, SYB, music, food, and love. I am a fairly simple girl at heart I think!!
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:33am

I'll play, too because Sweetie and I talk about this kind of thing all the time!

1. He understands.
XH - fat chance. I was told that my thoughts were stupid on a regular basis.
SO - But of course! Even when he disagrees, he understands.

2. He tells you.
XH - after sex only.
SO - all the time, every day, about me AND my girls who don't know he's sweetie!

3. He shows you.
XH - Nope. We were married. I should know it.
SO - Yes! With stupid things like burning a Queen CD because he remembered that mine was lost.

4. He listens to you.
XH - *LMAO*
SO - Gosh, we have conversations all the time...... DEEP conversations.

5. He's happy around you.
XH - Seemed happy, though I doubt he was truly contented since he's not to this day.
SO - Yes! But without that obsessive need to be with me every minute of every day.

6. He compliments you.
XH - He did sometimes. But when he made the comment about not criticizing my sagging mommy chest, I should have belted him.
SO - notices everything.... even when I part my hair in a different place.

7. He takes care of you.
XH - *LMAO* Wouldn't even rub my poor water-retaining feet when I was pregnant.
SO - Nursed me through minor surgery and a nasty cold already.

8. His friends and family like you.
XH - His Dad and 2 of 3 sisters did. Mom and the one sister like her hated me but didn't make that known until we separated.
SO - We already have the same friends because we were friends before sweeties. I've only met his family once, but they did seem to like me and ask after me regularly! And his boys seem to enjoy what little time we spend together.

9. He appreciates you:
XH - In the early days of the marriage he did. Don't know what changed it; perhaps it was that I was more appreciated at work than he.
SO - No one is happier for my success than my sweetie!

10. He asks for your opinion.
XH - Not really. But then again, he wasn't the kind of guy to get into situations where he needed advice.
SO - Yep!

11. He's interested in what you want too.
XH - Oh no! Most things I wanted were "stupid"
SO - Hmmmmmm I made him a fan of Grey's Anatomy and Big Love. He bought me tickets to a broadway show I wanted to see. He made me a fan of baseball, both major league and our local minors team! I think that goes both ways!

12. He makes you feel special.
XH - After sex, sure.
SO - All the time!

I admit, though, when XH and I were dating, I would have responded to this differently. XH is the type of man who loves being in a relationship and playing happy family, but only BEFORE marriage!

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:28pm

Blue Eyes just called to wish me a happy birthday and told me he will always love me no matter what I do...just plain old special me, any direction I go.


:o)


He actually scores about a 9.5...hits all of those except half of one...but honestly I'm not keeping score anymore.


I'm just celebrating LIFE today!


~Pacific~



Edited 4/22/2008 12:29 pm ET by pacific_sun
~Pacific~