1st date fri nite & ? re: the Pilot ...

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1st date fri nite & ? re: the Pilot ...
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:29pm

1st, the pilot. Not sure how to respond to this.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 12:29am

No - if it was me I would not - but you probably knew I would say that ;-)

I think it is better if the first date can be more catered to me and what I like to do - because it shows that the guy is wanting to please me. And I would not do an overnight with a stranger from CL - it is just too risky in my opinion.

Sounds to me like the pilot was just cleaning out his email in box and chit chatting. I would delete that and say "whatever"!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 12:40am
If he makes that much money why doesn't he rent a car so that you could have a proper date. I think it's a lot of hoop jumping to make you take a train there to see him. I mean without a car how will you go out once you get there? I would wait until he can take you out on a proper date.
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 2:22am

Actually, likley the reason he didnt think it was a big deal was b/c its really not, for me to go there. I go there often, to just meet freinds out, etc.

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:46am

Hi R,

Yes, it does sounds logical for you to go there, but, as a point of principle, I would wait until his car is fixed and meet half way. It just looks too keen. It's one thing going to meet friends in Boston, but it's totally different travelling an hour to meet someone on a first date.

As for the pilot, I would drop him a line a couple of days from now, asking about his health, just so you don't look heartless. But he doesn't seem like a serious contender for your heart right now ;o) !!

Have a great weekend,
Clem xx

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 4:11am

Really!? Its THAT weird for me to take the hour train ride to meet him?

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 4:39am

I forgot about your schedule! I'm with you on not wanting long drawn-out email and phone contact though. I just think that you're such a catch that he should be falling over himself to do whatever it takes to meet up with you ;o) But he probably doesn't realise that yet!

If you do decide to go, have a great time, be careful, and of course let us all know how it goes!

Enjoy your weekend!
Clem xx

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 7:39am

Okay- first- the pilot. I "lose" emails all the time. Honestly, sometimes I open one, read it, don't have time to reply, and then get about a million more before I remember I needed to reply to the first one, and it's a week later. It happens. BUT, I don't like that he didn't initiate any kind of conversation about another date. So, being me, I might wait a couple of days and send a "how're you feeling" email, but I would probably not, and just see if he emails me on his own.

As for the CL guy, I would probably go on the date- you can't avoid an entire city simply because of C, and you'll probably have fun. So, go, have fun, and come home on a late train. Or stay the night, or grab a room at a hotel, or whatever. but have fun!

Moody, giving chances to everyone now


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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 8:57am

I'd send the pilot the "how are you feeling" email in a few days and leave it at that~see where he takes it from there.

As far as the Boston date, if it's within your comfort range to travel the hour by train then go for it! You're not going to go to his place and you'll be out in a busy city having fun~ I once traveled an hour for a date~he traveled that far too~we had a first date at a 6 Flags....it was a blast and we got along very well~still friends to this day. Relationship didn't work out becasue of the long distance thing though.

Looking forward to your update!

~Dani~

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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 3:24pm
Ok, moot point! I cancelled b/c we are in the middle of this huge bizzare ice storm! Ah well, maybe next time!
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Fri, 03-16-2007 - 7:15pm

Oh goody - we get to all have another debate! ;-) Just kidding - this was a fun thread - good to read everyone's comments and opinions. A variety of opinions and comments makes for a fun "advice stew" LOL!!

Be careful in the ice - stay warm - and keep us posted.

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