1st Date report on KoH :)

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1st Date report on KoH :)
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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 2:35am

So, KoH as we will call him now from my single parents group...


Well, he decided that enough was enough and he could no longer wait till Sunday to meet me. I was like well, there's no way I could get a sitter this late, but I mean you're welcome to come by for a beer or something if you'd like? So we decided to go with it..


Well, he was 25 minutes early, I was totally naked in my downstairs bathroom and I hear my phone go off. I walk out to get it and its a text saying "I think I'm here". I was like holy sh..., my hair is frizzy, i'm dripping sweat from rushing, I have one eye of makeup on. And

"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 8:59pm

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 9:36pm
I had never really experienced a bullet train until this year with MA - and from that perspective - a bullet train can be exhilarating in the beginning when they say all the right things - but then it isn't really right - goes too fast - is in a fantasy world - not normal - not healthy - you can't have a relationship with a bullet train - you can only have an illusion and then a train wreck. I don't think I had a train wreck with MA because I was not emotionally invested - I was listening to my gut and trying to slow him down and talk sense into him but when I could not then I dumped him. I really had minimal mess. But I think I was in a good place - the picky palace! PP!! hahaha!!
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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 9:36pm
Although I want to jump for joy b/c it sounds so great .... I guess I have to stay on the "be careful train"!

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 10:45pm

Well, he really is a pretty awesome guy.


We were supposed to go out tonight, but I cancelled, and then we still had plans for Sunday. Well, it dawned on him how we are in two totally different places, and we had a talk about it. So, we're still going to go out Sunday, enjoy being friends.. but he's got nothing to give. I said ya know, I knew this.. and I'm kinda happy this didn't end up in a train wreck, because you would of eventually realized that. We talked about how you just need that time to yourself after a split, you need to enjoy spending time focusing on YOU not building another relationship to jump right into.


So, we agreed on casually seeing eachother, but he wants me to date and such. I'm good with that.. he's a fun guy to be around, and I felt very respected that he sat down and really thought this through before it went further :)


He also said dammit why couldn't I have met you a year from now? lol. Sigh, if all guys could be this honest. Who knows what the future will bring.. but I met a pretty awesome guy that I can go out with on occasion to get out of the house and have a good time with :)

"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."
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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:01pm

and we know i just went threw the train wreck with TG..... but i thought it was more like a Nascar car crashing into a wall. sigh..


Soonee, you have very wise words... i know i've been stung by your "to the point" way of putting things.. but it the end, you were right...


Eponine... great job being honest and having the conversation before the train wreck.. have fun sunday.

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:11pm

Win win situation!

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Fri, 06-27-2008 - 11:14pm

Thanks, Loony.

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Sat, 06-28-2008 - 6:39am
Good job - you are one of the few who really takes what we say to heart and puts it into action!! We really care about our moms here and never like to see anyone get hurt!!

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