2nd date... Pattern???
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| Tue, 01-29-2008 - 9:20pm |
I could swear I have a pattern going....
It turns out that not only does the guy from the grocery not have kids and divorced because the wives were career oriented, but is also a cancer like the last two men in my life. WEIRD? Third one a charm?? LOL.
Anyway, he seems to at least like kids. He's a school counselor. But isn't yet ready to say no to not having a family. Which could be a potential problem, but not something I wanted to discuss during the second date. It just came up that he would have liked to have had a family of his own but it just didn't work out that way.
We went for Italian which was really nice. Another strange thing is this guys Dad is a retired accountant too with a disability. Just like Nascars dad. It was so weird to hear all the similiarities from the last two guys. Nascar was a IT guy, but Mr. History was a teacher and this guy is a counselor. ?????? Just odd.
He's another geeky nerdy looking guy and short, like the last two. I don't know what it is about me and the geeks, but I find them adorable, even though they end up like trouble too.
But it's not like they have a sign walking around, it's just odd how similiar. Prior to the last three I never dated a cancer or guys that had wives run out on them for their careers and now suddenly three in a row??

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I look at patterns in my life for that points me to things I need to work on my inner life. I realized that I was attracting angry women and duh, my Mother was this angry woman who put down our Father in front of us even though she showed so much love to us.
Of course I married my Mother. And even though I tried consciously looked to be with women who were NOT like my former spouse, I managed to find other women who were angry. I know from my readings is that I do this pattern unconsciously so I went on this journey to work on myself to do things that dealt with my unconscious, e.g. NeuroLinguistic Programming.
I view that the people and situations that I attract are an indication of my spiritual health. I am so glad that Cute Gal is NOT like my previous relationships. I see the common background that contributed to the pattern of angry women are their relationships with their father.
So my take on your noticing a pattern is to dig deep and see what you have that needs to be resolved/addressed/looked at/be conscious of.
I believe that we unconsciously create this energetic field that attracts what we need to work on. I believe in synchonicity. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Synchronicity
Mark
May your soul be at rest.
May your heart remain open.
May you realize your own true nature.
May you be healed.
May you be a source of healing for the world. - a zen prayer
I think my date on Thurs is gonna be a geek .... So I will pass him along if thats the case
& I married my father. Not that he was nearly abusive like my X, but he was selfish, alcoholic, dishonest, etc. Thanfully he is Sober & wonderful now (that would be my Dad, not my X, lol).
Not sure i ever told you gusy this but when my friends spent a chunk of time with Carlos, who is POLAR OPPOSITE of my X, they said "Oh, thank GOD! We have HOPE now that you CAN choose good men!" lol
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
You can and you will - you just need more good ones to date. And at our age that is a tall order - the pool has receded.
Every time I look at a new batch of matches on eharmony I am amazed at how many would simply NOT be a match. Rides a motorcycle, picture so ugly I cannot stomach it, really different interests that don't match my lifestyle, on and on. We are all fully formed - which helps find a better match - but it means you have to be patient longer and sort through a lot. NOT to mention of course that the guys have to like our picture and be that into us. I see it as a several year project.
HUGS!
For some reason I really like the sound of this one. A school counselor without kids who is a bit nerdy sounds good for you, Cat. And you hit it off in person in the store and have had 2 dates.
Wipe your memory of those other toads. And keep us posted. My fingers are crossed!! I hope you excuse my enthusiasm.
Hang in there - it is a numbers game!!
Well, if you read my post about my weekend, you'll notice I had the TOTAL chance of hooking up with a few hunks, but I walked away. Tracy and I were talking and he couldn't believe some of the one's he was drooling for, I let drop and TRACY is drop dead gorgeous and loves drop dead gorgeous men.
I used to ONLY date those kinds of men, ONLY. Totally shallow, but in the last years I am tendencing towards uglier and uglier men. LOL. And to me they are so unattractive that they are good looking. Does that make sense??? Like really cute ugly. LOL. Even my friends in the past ask me what the heck I'm doing dating ugly men. LOL. Or when they say: YOU SLEPT WITH HIM! EWWWW!
This guy reminds me of that. He too me, is like Quasimodo. He's short, a stocky, not fat, limps and
"is like Quasimodois"
That's the thing.... I know I never ever would have to go out with a ugly man. I get some of the sexiest men asking me out, but...... I'm not interested. I find the geeks ultra sexy. Sad but true. I just find something incredibly irresistible about them.
These guys were all married.
I am the same way!
April
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