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| Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:58pm |
Okay - so KarateMan called tonight. We emailed a few times yesterday - he was telling me about his waverunner and his class that they were doing a lot of pushups and stuff.
So, today I responded to the note about his class and said that if he wanted, I could help him with the pushups by sitting on his back - it would add some weight to them and make him stronger!! LOL!!
So tonight he calls and says I must be a very good friend to help someone by sitting on their back while they are doing pushups. We had a good laugh.
So he wanted to go on the waverunner this weekend and I explained that would love to the next weekend but this weekend I am doing the 150 mile charity bike ride. But I did say that I am available on Sunday afternoon and can do something different in the mean time if he would like. (clever girl that I am to offer that, right? LOL!!)
So he said that would be great that we can do lunch or an early dinner.
Then we talked about our day and about the ride and stuff. He was cooking dinner.
So I will call him Sunday to tell him what time we are back and stuff like that and we will coordinate the time and what to do.

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Edited - okay - found the thread:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsolomother/?msg=12049.14
I see that you moved out - that is a good thing for now - and considering how your values were conflicted to be moving in and then not getting the ring yet and having doubts about your decision with the ex and the whole wedding plan conflict. Peace will bring you some good thoughts - and perhaps a happy ending either way! Keep us posted!
Edited 5/5/2008 6:00 pm ET by cl-west1745
Okay - maybe I should have named this the 2nd date saga thread. LOL!
Last night he emails me saying he is feeling better and thank you for understanding about last night (Sunday when we were supposed to go and he was sick) but Wednesday he has a corporate dinner and has to reschedule. That he is training Tuesday and Thursday night with his Karate and Wednesday he has a corporate dinner - but would Friday work. And Friday is the only weekend night I have DS and so I said I have plans for Friday with my son but do have Saturday open.
So, will keep you posted.....
Okay all - good news - here is what he writes, "Great,I'll give you a call and we can set it up."
PHEW! LOL!!
THat sounds promising. Saturday is even better- you have more time to spend perhaps? I have a good feeling about KarateMan.
You are right. Moving back by itself has made me feel so peaceful. I KNOW that Biker has the ring now.. But I am in no hurry and I can totally see why he was delaying. He would have wanted some gap between me com[pletely free of EX ( even traces of all the hurt cleaned out) and us having some peaceful time together before he proposed.. He was delaying for the right reason. Now that I feel much better and have moved back I am in NO hurrry..In fact I wish I had more time with this good mental state to evaluate everything before he proposes. This is one example where his speed was better and not mine..If he had proposed at teh same speed at which I wished, perhaps it was not the best timing..
Interestingly I can see lots of good about him that I was taking for granted before.. I am able to tell him very calmly what bothers me. Great feeling to have once again taken control of my own life and really not to feel sad about anything and be able to see all the wonderful things I have. Frankly even my work was so slow because of all these 100s of thoughts, sadness, expectations all jumbled up together and not knowing how to overcome the deep sorrow. I think I felt that one happiness ( geting engaged) will mask my sorrow.. I was so wrong. Both needed to be addressed separately.
Hey West, give him bonus points for being a martial artist. They are the best...meaning hard working, friendly and helpful. Is he an instructor or student?
Laurie
I did 5 years of taekwondo with my daughter. She did 7 total. We both got up to instructor level and then quit and got into triathlon. I see youre a cycler. Cool. Glad to see he is working hard on his next belt. Hope things work for you two.
Laurie
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