I sense a 13 year old who is hurting. Perhaps feeling abandoned by her dad and blaming her mom. If she was in my area i'd recommend a teenage program called AMP'D which stands for Answers to solving todays Problems (or something like that)... in either case it is a support group for teens.
this teen probably needs to talk about her feelings and situation with someone who will listen without judgement. And a support group of her peers is less threatening than a shrink.
My prayers go out to the 13 year old and her mother.
I have heard that girls get really challenging in their teens. (Except all of us ...we were all ANGELS right ladies? LOL) Hormones, Hormones then more Hormones!! I wish I had some advice, but all I can say is that I hope your friend does
I like this answer from Loony. I always believe in positive love and support. I think she needs to listen for this cry for help and talk to her one on one in a nonconfrontational manner - or take her to a school counselor who can do this. Perhaps she has a fear that her mom will abandon her the way her father did and she is unhappy about the added stress in the home from the divorce. Tell her we send good luck and support!
Whoa, that is one out of control teen. The second the word s**t came out of her mouth I'd have taken her cell phone, sent her to her room and calmly told her that no matter how upset she is, we don't treat other people that way in our house. My boys went through a surly period right after the divorce, but I didn't back off and pretend it was OK just because we were in a particularly stressful period. The boys went to counseling for a year and so did I. Mom stayed in charge and the boys now are thankful (seriously S18 just said something to that effect last week). My sister's oldest daughter was quite the drama queen in her teens. My sister and her husband are still married so divorce wasn't a factor. But boy, that kid was a trial. My sister remained calm, didn't respond by matching the drama rather went the prison guard route, too. No cell phone, no driving priveledges, no e-mail contact with friends. The young woman is now in nursing school so she did finally straighten out. Kids will test you and test you. If they think they can manipulate the situation they will. It's not in their best interest, but they do it. So Mom has to remain calm and in charge. When the kid is not on a tirade, talk to her about the drama queen behavior. Get her into counseling. If the younger kids see that big sis doesn't get her way by throwing tantrums, they're less likely to follow that behavior pattern. QueenBun, who was, and still is very low drama- too exhausting
I sense a 13 year old who is hurting. Perhaps feeling abandoned by her dad and blaming her mom. If she was in my area i'd recommend a teenage program called AMP'D which stands for Answers to solving todays Problems (or something like that)... in either case it is a support group for teens.
this teen probably needs to talk about her feelings and situation with someone who will listen without judgement. And a support group of her peers is less threatening than a shrink.
My prayers go out to the 13 year old and her mother.
God Bless,
Loonybunny
Yikes! Oh she must be at her wits end....
I have heard that girls get really challenging in their teens. (Except all of us ...we were all ANGELS right ladies? LOL) Hormones, Hormones then more Hormones!! I wish I had some advice, but all I can say is that I hope your friend does
I personally don't have any teenage daughter (yet!) but I remember my MIL telling me how my SIL went through a really rebellious period.
My heart goes out to your friend.
My sister's oldest daughter was quite the drama queen in her teens. My sister and her husband are still married so divorce wasn't a factor. But boy, that kid was a trial. My sister remained calm, didn't respond by matching the drama rather went the prison guard route, too. No cell phone, no driving priveledges, no e-mail contact with friends. The young woman is now in nursing school so she did finally straighten out.
Kids will test you and test you. If they think they can manipulate the situation they will. It's not in their best interest, but they do it. So Mom has to remain calm and in charge. When the kid is not on a tirade, talk to her about the drama queen behavior. Get her into counseling. If the younger kids see that big sis doesn't get her way by throwing tantrums, they're less likely to follow that behavior pattern.
QueenBun, who was, and still is very low drama- too exhausting
She did call the school counsellor today asked for their help.