advice for the poor and committed

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008
advice for the poor and committed
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 4:00am
Hello anyone who reads this,
How do you keep a relationship with your significant other alive and vibrant when you constantly face obstacles associated with being poor?
Vaniiaa

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 6:54pm

"There's plenty of free stuff you could do together. Make a special meal and movie night at home, go for walks together, plan together for your baby."

That is what I was going to suggest. Plan fun free stuff and go to school and in time you will be able to earn what you want. It all comes in baby steps from the right decisions.

Welcome and good luck to our original poster!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-21-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:30am

Well if you'd love to hear it:

You don't mention anything about either one of your jobs/careers, other than to suggest you aren't working. If you are living with your parents, you aren't poor unless they are. Restless makes perfect sense. By the way, the wedding is not important, making a down payment on an apartment is. These are the rules that grown-ups live by :/

I suggest you stop worrying about having fears, fantasies, concerns, etc. and start working with what you can help. If you can get a job, get one. You are missing what you haven't had because you think it's something mystical. Dating a rich guy, it's not Disneyland. Having been to both, I'm pretty sure I had more fun at the amusement park.

What you have right now are real life responsibilities. Use your brain and work on them. You are going to have a child. As you look to your parents to support you, that is what this baby is going to look at you as. You are capable of making that support happen for them. Take a good long look at reality. I wish you the best.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:44am

"If you can get a job, get one. You are missing what you haven't had because you think it's something mystical. Dating a rich guy, it's not Disneyland. Having been to both, I'm pretty sure I had more fun at the amusement park."

Silver_lining79 - that is a very good statement!! This is a great post for our new girl. Getting an education, a job and making money require setting goals and working to accomplish those over time - not dreaming of a ritzy life!! And I do agree that dating a rich guy is no Disneyland - I have had a few myself that I gave the boot - one for drinking in excess and another for being unstable with major things in his life like his KIDS!

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