After Much Thought...

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After Much Thought...
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 2:37pm

After much thought and deliberation, I am moving in with him. I guess, in a lot of ways, my mind was already made up. However, I really don't feel that it's a bad decision. I love him and I know that he loves me and dd. He's very thoughtful and helpful, caring and understanding, etc. I know that things are bound to come up in any relationship though...but I feel that we are prepared to handle things. We have discussed (and I feel that I've ran things into the ground...lol) things and I feel that we are starting this on a good and positive foot/note. Communication is always open between us (even though I may hold back some due to my past with exh, etc.). I just think that everything will be okay.

I know many of you may thing that I'm making the wrong decision, and that's okay. But at this point I feel like this is the best thing for me and dd. I do appreciate all the advice and comments that have been made on my behalf.

Kait

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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 3:38pm

Good luck, Kait, and we're always here for you! When will you officially move in? I know you have two weeks to be out of your place, right? Will you start moving things in now, or wait until then?

Keep us posted!


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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 6:13pm

We talked about some more things about two days ago. Today he told me that he would watch dd if I wanted to go get some of my stuff and move it in tonight (ie: clothes and whatnot). So, probably this week or at least by Sunday.

And I know that everyone on this board is so helpful! I'm so lucky to have found this board!

Kait

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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 9:11pm
Congrats, Kait. I know you thought long and hard about this and discussed it at length. I think everyone here put enough doubt in your head to make you discuss it better than if you had not posted at all. I wish you all the best and am always here. I hope everything turns out just the way you want!! Remember we are always here to help keep things smooth along the way or for whatever you might need.
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:21pm

Even though I was hoping you'd make the other decision, it's your life not mine and I do believe you have a good head on

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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:35pm
Congratulations and good luck, i hope everything works out for all of you

 

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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 11:52pm

Kait,


I'm sure you feel better having made the final decision to move in with crush.


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Fri, 06-30-2006 - 11:03am

Good luck, Kait! I'm sure you feel better now that you've made the decision, and have a focus or a goal to head towards now. I'm glad you've talked with Crush, and I hope those nagging gut feelings about those things you posted about initially are all alleviated! I'm a big believer of listening to your gut (especially if your head or heart seems confused) and as long as your gut isn't still telling you "don't do it", then you will be fine. I hope Crush comes through to be the partner you want in raising dd, and that your move goes smoothly! (I hate packing and moving! It's amazing how "stuff" just accumulates.)

Keep us updated on how things go!!

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:31am
So.... tell us how your first holiday went - are you moved in/settled yet? How is DD doing?
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 5:25pm

The fourth went very very well with dd and crush. We (with the exception of dd) went to a bbq, and then I picked dd up and we went to the store and then to watch the fireworks. I had fun, actually, I think we all did.

The big drama started when ex called. He had dropped dd off Sunday and told me that he probably wasn't going to be home on the fourth and that he couldn't take her (it was his holiday to have her). He told me that he would call in time if his plans changed. He also told me that he didn't think that he would even be home the entire month of July. He had a job interview out of town and plans on moving 2 hours away in the next couple of weeks.

Our divorce decree says that he has to give me 24 hours notice of any changes. Well...my mom came over Monday morning and her and a bunch of family members were going to the river and going camping for the day. She asked me if it would be okay to take dd, so I said sure, and let her go. Well...ex calls late that night and says that he wants dd. So, I told him, sorry, but you never called and she's gone. He got mad and started yelling, so we ended the conversation. The next day he calls me cursing, etc., wanting dd. I told him that there was nothing I could do, my mom didn't have service on her cell due to where she was, and when dd got back I would call him and he could come pick her up. Furthermore, I told him that he is required to give me 24 hours notice and he didn't, so I wasn't really worried about it. He, in turn, went to the police station and filed a complaint stating that I was in violation of our custody arrangement. The police called me, asked me what was going on, so I told them what was going on, what our divorce decree stated, and told them what I had told ex. They said "okay, that's all we needed to know. Have a great day." And that was it.

I'm not in contempt of court or in violation of anything, ex just wants to be a jerk. So, other than that, everything was really good. I had a blast with crush and dd. She was so cute watching all the fireworks. She was so tired by the end of the night and could barely keep her eyes open...it was funny!

Kait

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Sat, 07-08-2006 - 9:37pm

You did an awesome job handling your ex.

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