men...what ARE they thinking? Yes, flirting he was (said yoda)...AND he suggested we get together some evening. I asked him about his family, 3 kids...so the next question of course is "Is your wife here in the US?" Yes, she works at the hospital too. HOLY MOLY!
Geez, the nerve of that guy. You'll have to keep your distance from him. I'm sure he'll try some more. If he continues to be flirty, tell him that you don't want anything to do with a married man.
If he has something like that to say again I'll be letting him know that I don't go out with married men OR invite them over.
*sigh*...
It's one of those experiences that makes a nunnery look inviting.
Someone told me today that my smile could be misinterpreted. WHAT THE HELL!??? What is to interpret when a married man is looking for an affair? Isn't it his morality that's the problem?
AW Candi! It sounds like your going through what I go through 90% of the time here in Europe.... The married man problem! It is a hidden culture, but it's a culture for married couples to seek affairs here. I deal with it all the time! Why do you think I am STILL single and still frustrated? I just can't be the other woman. It's just not possible for me. YET! Everyone thinks thats wierd of me. They assume, by the way I look and act (whatever THAT means), that I am the perfect mistress. I've asked a few times what that meant (women, but mainly guys). They said I am always smiling, enthusiastic, very nice and I tend to touch people once I know them. My body language oozes sex! SO!? I am a nice person, I am enthusiastic when I see someone I like, but not "LIKE want", yeah know? AND I love to smile, it happens to be one of my biggest traits, my smile. The touching part, ok, I can understand that might seem to get a few people confused. But I love to hug my girlfriends or I'll put my head on their shoulder or I'll do something that lets them know I think they are terrific. I do that with my kids and with men (BUT ONLY THOSE I KNOW), I have noticed that when talking to them that I will touch their sleeves to show them something or just to acknowledge something. That doesn't mean I am a flirt or that I want to sleep with them or anything. If I wanted to do that, I wouldn't put out signs like that. I would put out the huge "I'M SINGLE SIGN" and I want you. That goes TOTALLY different and no one can miss that sign. If I wanted a man, I would take off my wedding ring that I wear. I would give him the eyes (that works everytime) and if it didn't work then, then I would openly outright flirt to let him get the picture. BEING NICE AND SMILING is not a sign of picking a guy up in my book! AND I'M sorry, I can't help that I am pretty, that I have a nice body and that I dress to impress. That is a LAME excuse and it just TICKS me off when people tell me I shouldn't do that. What would the world be like if I women all had to be grumpy slobby B*#'%§ just because a married man says a woman smiling is an EXCUSE to say he flirted with us? ARGH! That just totally riles me! Big big big hugs to you! I can so understand how you feel. That just makes me so angry and I'm not even in your shoes! :-(
It's not your fault at all for being friendly. Men are dogs, especially the married ones. A married man tried to be my friend and I thought we were friends, but he started getting flirty with me. I shot him down and he continued to be flirty. I had to cut off all communication with this person. Every now and then, he tries to get in touch with me via email to chat about things. I don't respond. I don't need a married man telling me that I'm cute, etc....
Did you know the man's wife? I do have some married, male men I consider friends...but I know their wives and we are friends as well...works ok that way, I think.
No, I never met her. The guy was part of a group of commuting friends. He had a lot in common with me since we were from the same state and went to the same college...liked the same sports teams. We'd talk about sports and swap college stories. He crossed the line and got flirty though....way too flirty. It made me upset because I realized that he didn't want to be friends and had no good intentions toward me whatsoever. I feel sorry for his wife.
men...what ARE they thinking? Yes, flirting he was (said yoda)...AND he suggested we get together some evening. I asked him about his family, 3 kids...so the next question of course is "Is your wife here in the US?" Yes, she works at the hospital too. HOLY MOLY!
I told him I am not looking for
If he has something like that to say again I'll be letting him know that I don't go out with married men OR invite them over.
*sigh*...
It's one of those experiences that makes a nunnery look inviting.
Someone told me today that my smile could be misinterpreted. WHAT THE HELL!??? What is to interpret when a married man is looking for an affair? Isn't it his morality that's the problem?
Whatever...
AW Candi! It sounds like your going through what I go through 90% of the time here in Europe.... The married man problem!
It is a hidden culture, but it's a culture for married couples to seek affairs here. I deal with it all the time! Why do you think I am STILL single and still frustrated? I just can't be the other woman. It's just not possible for me. YET! Everyone thinks thats wierd of me. They assume, by the way I look and act (whatever THAT means), that I am the perfect mistress. I've asked a few times what that meant (women, but mainly guys). They said I am always smiling, enthusiastic, very nice and I tend to touch people once I know them. My body language oozes sex! SO!? I am a nice person, I am enthusiastic when I see someone I like, but not "LIKE want", yeah know? AND I love to smile, it happens to be one of my biggest traits, my smile. The touching part, ok, I can understand that might seem to get a few people confused. But I love to hug my girlfriends or I'll put my head on their shoulder or I'll do something that lets them know I think they are terrific. I do that with my kids and with men (BUT ONLY THOSE I KNOW), I have noticed that when talking to them that I will touch their sleeves to show them something or just to acknowledge something. That doesn't mean I am a flirt or that I want to sleep with them or anything. If I wanted to do that, I wouldn't put out signs like that. I would put out the huge "I'M SINGLE SIGN" and I want you. That goes TOTALLY different and no one can miss that sign. If I wanted a man, I would take off my wedding ring that I wear. I would give him the eyes (that works everytime) and if it didn't work then, then I would openly outright flirt to let him get the picture. BEING NICE AND SMILING is not a sign of picking a guy up in my book! AND I'M sorry, I can't help that I am pretty, that I have a nice body and that I dress to impress. That is a LAME excuse and it just TICKS me off when people tell me I shouldn't do that. What would the world be like if I women all had to be grumpy slobby B*#'%§ just because a married man says a woman smiling is an EXCUSE to say he flirted with us? ARGH! That just totally riles me!
Big big big hugs to you! I can so understand how you feel. That just makes me so angry and I'm not even in your shoes! :-(
Like you said... "NEXT"!!
Thanks Cat.
I considered dressing in something really crappy and unattractive
Thanks.
Did you know the man's wife? I do have some married, male men I consider friends...but I know their wives and we are friends as well...works ok that way, I think.