Am I asking too much?
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Am I asking too much?
| Wed, 04-09-2008 - 5:32pm |
Okay, I met this gentleman online about two months ago. We seemed to be getting along pretty well until very recently.
| Wed, 04-09-2008 - 5:32pm |
Okay, I met this gentleman online about two months ago. We seemed to be getting along pretty well until very recently.
Hello and welcome to the board, Sensie.
First of all, I commend you for communicating your feelings in the relationship and owning them. You never said "hey- you have to stop dating other women"..from what I gather you simply said that YOU choose to date in a "not seeing anyone else" way. I totally get that, and I'm the same way. I would not waste my time dating someone who was dating around.
Does he have kids? A father might understand better why we look for more committed dates- we just are not going to subject or kids and our lives with our kids to uncommitted and wishy washy men.
I guess if I was you, I would ask him for a heart to heart chat. No blaming or guilting, just a really honest dialogue. I'd tell him that you sense his pulling away after telling him what you told him. It obviously made him uncomfortable, and if you see anything in him that might be salvageable, I would ask him to tell you what makes him uncomfortable. He needs top be honest and if he says he still wants to date others, then let him go do that but don't wait around. He has that right but most importatly, you have the right to move on.
Do you think he would be open to talking honestly?
I think that relationships are self selecting which means that if it does not work out then there is a good reason.
You thinking of being "used" is playing the victim.
Welcome to the board.
I agree with Mark.
It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.