Am I being selfish

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Am I being selfish
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Sun, 02-03-2008 - 4:54am

So it's the weekend.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:42am

Same here.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:59am

M says "See, perfect timing"


Oh that would have really got under my skin. It's another way of saying "relax chickie" which I hate. And the micro-managing thing- I agree, address it early and let it be known how it is an issue.


It sounded to me that M must have have reservations about going to the Opera on that day from the get go- and he just didn't say anything, therefore harboring a feeling a made him kind of drag his feet and act unenthusiastically. I find most guys to be like that sometimes..if they feel pressured to do something against their will they get a bit passive aggressive. What he could have done was one of two things: either declining

~Pacific~
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:05pm

I find most guys to be like that sometimes..if they feel pressured to do something against their will they get a bit passive aggressive.


I should clarify- some guys have learned and do not get his way but rahter communicate up front- (for example, Mark, I think you said this- so I don't mean to catagorize all men at all.


~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 1:19pm

Okay--I over-reacted!

April

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:20pm
I would have felt the same way as you... but I also find myself wondering the same things you are posting here, so I am no help. I love everyone's input, for some reason, Mark's posts really hit something with me and I can relate to what he says as "OH MAN! I totally do that sometimes!" lol he's my "unspoken relationship guru" I have been lurking much more than posting lately... just no news on my front and feel like I have little to offer to the board right now. But I wanted to say I'm sorry the weekend didn't go as you'd hoped and I would agree, chalk it up toa bad day, and maybe next time lay out the hopes and plans for the time spent together instead of just waiting and winging it. I'm guilty of doing that, and then being disappointed it wasn't what I'd hoped.
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