Am I the one that needs help?

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Am I the one that needs help?
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Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:14pm

So my nice little romance of five months is over.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:23pm

Hmmmmmmmmmm.

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:27pm

I heartily agree with isysmoon... you don't need help.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:47pm

Awe honey! I'm soooo sorry! But let's set something straight! You dont' need help! I bet you had a bad gut instinct going on. After the whole craigslist thing, I would definitely have freaked out! What made him think you guys were broken up? Anyway, the point was, even if you were broken up, he quickly got over you didn't he???


And the whole girlfriend thing? Nonononono.....


I did the EXACT same thing over the summer. I had a really bad gut instinct about something and I did something I shouldn't have done. I checked the guys text messages to find him texting his x girlfriend about missing her, etc etc WHATEVER!!!!I was outta their. Well, I told him I went through his cell phone and he in turn told me I had no right and that I had issues and he couldn't trust me! Wellll, he proved to me why I couldn't. The gut instinct is a strong one. It might have been wrong, but I believe their is a fine line to that. When you have reason to believe or have been proven something being fishy then I say why not? Rather catch him then be hurt in the end by the lying bastard.

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:57pm

Thank you all!


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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 9:00pm

Do not let him emotionally abuse you! You don't deserve it. You might have done something you aren't proud of.. BUT he's the one who was messing around behind your back. DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIS BEHAVIOR!!!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 9:55pm

The only thing you need is HIGHER STANDARDS so you don't end up so frustrated over a dodo like this. He is NOT SURE you broke up so he puts and ad on craig's list? And tries to communicate with text messages? And doesn't call enough? And has a list to be golden after all this? And then makes you so upset and suspicious that you look at his phone? And then catch him for something with the phone.

DUMPOLA and run. NO more. Wait for the right one who values you enough to treat you like gold.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:05pm
Right on Judy! What a scum bucket!
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Registered: 01-26-2005
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:11pm

Thank you both!


He called.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:23pm
I would make a go/no go decision - and based on what you have said I think you can do a lot better - but that is me. He can give you an apology - maybe - but can he give you what you want and MEAN it and do better? That is what you have to evaluate.
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 11:00pm
without seriously sounding rude, you need to have some self respect. I know your hurting, but you are hurting yourself MUCH MUCH more with this man. I can't tell you what to do, but answering any phone or messages or anything from him anymore is nothing but a big mistake. Even if he apologized, who cares?? He won't mean it anyways. Get over him quick and get some self respect that you deserve.

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