Am I over analyzing?
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Am I over analyzing?
| Tue, 06-17-2008 - 10:25am |
I've mentioned before that my bf has some trust issues - which I'm really trying to be sensitive to but sometimes I just don't get him.

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LOL - didn't see your reply when I was making my other post.
Lol- well sometimes the books can't fit the situation because the author can't cover every possibility.
"I need to step back, realize it's not me, and do whatever I need to do and just keep making my life (and my kid's) the best it can be. "
I think that is just the thing - don't work too hard at trying to overcome his own issues. Just wait and see. My new saying now is "don't make a feast out of a crumb" just because there are so few crumbs!! LOL!!
The thing that would be good is if he realizes that his issues are making things hard on you and upsetting you - in other words you going out and not answering the phone scares him because he was cheated on - but the right answer is not to stonewall and make you miserable for days, it is to talk about it - if he did that I would be more inclined to keep going. But if he gets defensive and tries to blame you for his issues and actions then I don't know about that.
Some things you can change and some you can't.
"But if he gets defensive and tries to blame you for his issues and actions then I don't know about that. "
Exactly!
I've been in sales and marketing for ages (still am).
I have this bad tendency to try and fix everything and make everything right and take blame for things that aren't possibly my fault.
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