Am I in the right?
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Am I in the right?
| Sat, 12-24-2005 - 11:09am |
I am fairly new here so I will introduce myself. I am a single mom with 3 kids. My ex is definitely a piece of work. I didn't agree with him living with me and having a girlfriend as well so booted his butt out. He has given me minimal support financially. I have let him see his kids. Never said no to him about that.
Now for my dilemma. He has recently moved out of his mom's house( I know) into a major city in our area. I have asked him for his new address but he refuses to give it to me so I told him he won't be taking the kids until I know where the kids will be living when they are with him. He told me he wouldn't give me any money then. I don't care about that but do want to know where my kids will be at. There is currently no court orders for custody or support. I am in the process of getting that done. What I want to know is am I in the right not letting him take the kids when I don't know where they are going? Thank you for any advice or support on this one. I can't believe I may have to deny him his weekend because of something so stupid. Thanks again.
Now for my dilemma. He has recently moved out of his mom's house( I know) into a major city in our area. I have asked him for his new address but he refuses to give it to me so I told him he won't be taking the kids until I know where the kids will be living when they are with him. He told me he wouldn't give me any money then. I don't care about that but do want to know where my kids will be at. There is currently no court orders for custody or support. I am in the process of getting that done. What I want to know is am I in the right not letting him take the kids when I don't know where they are going? Thank you for any advice or support on this one. I can't believe I may have to deny him his weekend because of something so stupid. Thanks again.

This is just my personal opinion, but I think you have made the right decision. You have every right to know where your children are going and if they are going to be safe when they are gone. Furthermore, you do not have any court papers saying when and where they have to go so you are not in violation of anything. You have to do what you feel is best for your children! Follow your gut and your heart. If he wants to see them for the holiday then let it be on your terms if he can't be an adult and tell you where he lives and where they will be.
Best of luck and lots of hugs.
Merry Christmas,
Kait
I would probably do the same.
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