Amazing night
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| Sat, 04-19-2008 - 11:48am |
I learned so much about TG last night.... he said he came from a perfect family until his dad died a couple years ago from kidney failure... On many levels he could not relate to my turbulent family history.... I met his second dad last night.... quite a character with many jokes... TG said after his dad died, this was the guy who helped him get through.... This guy said, TG has talked a lot about me and "thinks highly" of me..... I saw a side of TG that began to make my heart melt..... and i thought... TG is a really good guy... and an honest guy.
He attempted to have the "talk" with me..... he asked me, "so, what am i to you." YIKES... i didn't know how to answer that... he's a really great guy... BUT still we only met two weeks ago... for me, that's too soon to say he's my boyfriend.... and I still feel like I want to keep it simple.... so after he asked me that question, i just shrugged... and he said, "just two friends hanging out?" and that sounded good to me... He also said, "you are the only one i'm thinking about." implied exclusivity. Then he said, "i just wanted to be sure we were on the same page...." and he said, "you didn't like me asking that question did you?" There were other friends around so i wasn't able to elaborate on how i feel or what i expect....
I still have some negative thoughts and self doubt.... especially after his "perfect family" comment... but he said, "I'm glad your normal." Okay, everybody can laugh.... LOL.... i guess what he meant was my stable job, and essentially nondrama personality.... i don't play head games.... and i'm pretty honest... but i don't think i'm "normal"... lol.
We had a late night after i met his friends and his second dad.... then went back to his place and had amazing sex.... I said, it really is getting better and better.... and he said, "this is only the beginning." how sweet and reassuring.... It was an amazing night....
Loonybunny

It sounds that you really like TG and visa versa and are comfortable with each other.
I wonder what would keep you from being exclusive with him? I put this out as a question for those of you on the board who want to date around as well.
When I first got out of my marriage I wanted to date around because I wanted to experience a variety of women for I only dated my wife when I was growing up. Now I am looking for "The One" and nobody has really resonated with me on that heart level yet. When I met Cute Newly Divorced Gal, after a couple of 5-7 hour dates and phone conversations, I knew I did not want to divert my energies in dating others.
I am curious why would you want to date others? Are you not looking for a long, term committed relationship, just FWB? Do you want to keep your options open because you do not trust on how it may work out (if so then have you thought that may be a self fulfilling prophecy)? or ... what?
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
"just two friends hanging out?" and that sounded good to me
I agree, Soonee... I think LB is selling herself short on this one- he WANTS more and she's treating him like Sean did with her...
Which makes me wonder if Loony is really INTO TG?
hello,
first .... i did not see the cop for coffee... instead i drove straight back to see TG after dropping the children off with their grandma at the beach... second... i thought i was clear in my other posts that i only sleep with one person at a time... whether it's an FWB or something more... when i date more than one guy it does NOT