An Angry ex-husband
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| Thu, 04-26-2007 - 11:28pm |
Hello!!!
I've posted here before but not too often. I figure you ladies would be very supportive and helpful. Here is my latest situation:
It has been over 18 months since my now ex-husband decided to leave me for another woman (till this day, he still insists that he didn't leave me for her). I have two kids, my daughter 3 1/2 years, and my son almost 2.
I have since moved on from this terrible situation and in the beginning I will admit, I did behave badly. My ex seemed to be getting a kick out of me going crazy. Now, that I have really moved on emotionally from him and I actually have a serious boyfriend, I have only been civil with him but it seems the more civil I am, the more angry he gets, the more difficult he is to deal with. We currently have joint legal and physically custody of our children. Recently, he has filed for full custody of our children clamining all sorts of crazy things basiclly saying I am not fit to be a mother. My daughter and son have a hard time going with him and in his eyes, it's all my fault. He lives with his girlfriend (the other woman) and her 6 year old son. The thing is we are working with a co-parent couselor who is suppose to mediate things between us but our meetings are useless as he continues to demand things go his way or else. Our counselor even advised him not to file because it would be a waste of time, nonetheless, he goes full force with it.
At this point, I am sick and tired being bullied by him constantly demanding different things. He even tried to demand me not be in my own home or work when he comes to pick up my son and demands that a co-worker take my son out to the car for him for the mere fact that my son calls out for "mommy" the whole time so he thinks that eliminating me would help but he was wrong. My son still calls out for "mommy" even if someone else takes him to the car. I simply comply with him because he is relentless and don't to make him more mad but he won't stop until he gets what he wants. He is mean and will not let up and continues to bully me. I have to mention his girlfriend (the other woman), she has been helping him write all of his e-mails to my attorney and basiclly been controlling my ex. I don't want to live my life like this. We have our court date coming up next Wednesday May 2nd and I'm afraid he will make me look like a lunatic when in reality, I have SERIOUSLY stopped all my bad behavior (his basis is all old stuff that has happened before) . I just want to live my life. I've moved on now, should he have also??? What is his reason for being so angry??? He is the one who chose this path for us. It's funny because for the first time, I can say that his behavior is unacceptable. I have made many attempts to be civil with him even writing him an heartfelt e-mail only to get back from him and his girlfriend that I am delusional and need serious help. Have any of you ladies experienced this? Where in the beginning, you were the crazy one but have really moved on and suddenly your ex starts to behave badly??? It's almost like he doesn't want to see me happy and wants me to act crazy???

I don't think voice messages are admissible in court unless you have the person's approval to record it before the conversation even begins.
I agree with rlch. The only thing I would add is I hope you have a good attorney who can advise you what to do and what not to do.
Some of his demands do not have to be met. The one about a coworker taking the kid to the car I would not do.
Hopefully when he sees that he doesn't get anywhere in court he will realize this behavior is a waste of time and money.
I am sorry you have to go through this.
There is a divorce board here and they may be able to help you even more with your issues. Of course we are always here to listen and help, too.
Hey nat, I understand about being the "bad" ex wife.. I went little crazy on my exh when we split up, and had a very hard time, and made alot of bad choices, but it's been 2 1/2 years, people need to grow up and move on,, Just read my post about my ex-laws, (3 strikes) it's crazy, and it just happened tonight, so I'm fumming over it..,,,so you have my hugges, and empathy.. I've been bullied and pushed around enough, and it sounds like you've had your fair share of it to, so it doesn't get to happen anymore,,Don't put up with exh's demands, your not married to him anymore, you don't have to take his crap anymore...
Florence