Another moving Update....
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| Wed, 02-27-2008 - 12:55pm |
Yesterday was a crazy day.. but today i'm better.
DID NOT change my name back to my maiden name... That would have taken too much effort... I instead changed my drivers license to my married name (which is my legal name)... then I was able to get a replacement SSN card... So, now I can start my new job on Monday.
So much to do, but it looks like everything is coming together. I sign the lease tomorrow morning and register my son for his new school. (And did I mention I'm preparing a birthday party for my dd14 for this saturday as well...)
My son's dad is going to be an @$$... making threats and all. I was frazzled yesterday, but by last night I regained my calmness. If he wants to take me to court, i say BRING IT ON. I have my son's best interest on my side.....
I told the ex that he could see dds on Mar 7th and keep him overnight. He squawked. This from a man who hasn't seen his son in 3 weeks and we live on the same street. AND he's 4 months behind on child support. Like I said, I'm not worried. If i have to pay for a lawyer or whatever, I believe the money will come from somewhere and my family will remain in tact. I forgive the ex for being.. well an ex and turn the situation over to my higher power. Amen.
Loonybunny

Good for you, Loony, for recognizing what you cannot control, and giving it over.
I am sure that is so stressful it is enough to make your blood boil.
It won't matter to the courts that he is behind in CS payments - that is a different issue.
What will matter is that he has not been active and yet you have offered to let him see him at least as much as he has been in the past. If you could re-iterate this in an email or just jot down what you said - so you have documentation - that is good.
Something like - you have been seeing DS this many days per month, I can ensure that you will see him that many moving forward. How about this schedule......
Then you will show that you are operating in good faith. You are not moving that far and the big income increase is a very big asset to your family for you and the kids and especially since he is not paying CS. It will be a hassle and you will be okay. And really, do you think he is going to want full custody since he never sees the kid anyway? I think not. So he is blowing steam - do your best not to get rattled!!
Thanks everyone.. sending him a letter would prob be a good idea.. I haven't had to worry about documentation in sooo long... i guess it's time to start once again.
I think it is always a great idea to keep all t's crossed and all i's dotted - so if you can afford the lawyer you should get it all in writing and organized. Better now than later. And always a good idea when you have custody and visitation to worry about. You don't ever want to jeopardize that or create a bigger hassle.
The funny thing is that he sees him so seldom you probably could have moved and he would never know it - because it sounds like you are going to be in town a lot. Except kids talk. Bad buggers that they are!! LOL!! Just kidding - just a funny thought.
Good luck with getting everything done for your move!!
"The funny thing is that he sees him so seldom you probably could have moved and he would never know it "
Yeah- sad, but true, hey?