another pain in the neck
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| Mon, 08-30-2004 - 11:15am |
I have been on the verge of taking him to court to modify child support. Well, he told them he's moving to ND.
And he's trying to talk them into going with him. The two older say "HA! no way" but he's tried to tell them it would be "better for their future" because Fargo is such a wonderful place to live and so much better than where we are now. The youngest said she's considering it, I told her it's not just her decision.
He wants them to go NOW if they're going, I told her she needs to finish the school year here and she can visit him in the summer and see what it's like, AFTER they're settled in.
*sigh*
I wonder what this means for child support? And I think I can forget modifying it inter state. I have contacted someone in the ND Child Support Enforcement dept and hope to hear from them soon.
So, y'all pray for me, ok?
I'm trying to not let this get to me, and interfere with my grad studies.

Candi, I am SO sorry for this crappy upset in your life. HOW would life in Freaking FARGO be better???? I don't even get that statement.
How young is your youngest??? I will pray that you have the wisdom to stay calm and handle this the best possible way. If your ex moves away, but none of the kids go...well, that sounds like a nice low key situation for you all!
As far as child support modification, I am not sure why it will be any different if he moves away??? It will still be in the hands of the MO courts, won't it? (you do live in MO, right?)
Do you have custody? I don't see how he can take over custody AND move away at the same time. The courts, at least here in FL, do not go that way.
I think you should talk to a lawyer NOW and see how to handle this.
I think you should explain to the kids that it is always best to wait and see with these decisions. They have a big network of friends and their school and you. They can go and have fun with dad during the summer but this is where they live and you have their best interest in mind. They must trust you about this.
I can only imagine that this must be a HUGE upset to you and you are doing so well with your studies. Please persist and don't give up. I am thinking he is feeling guilty for leaving to be away from the kids and has a lot of energy now but will not pursue once he gets there and gets settled.
Fargo may be a nice place to visit, but it is not like home with MOM!!!!!!!!!!
God Bless!! And good luck - keep us posted!!
He can't just take custody, and since he's moving it would have to be her decision. I'm sure we'll work it out.
Just another damned bump in the road.