another weekend update

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Registered: 02-23-2007
another weekend update
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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:59pm

Saw Mr. Nice Eyes this weekend. We had a great time. I decided I wanted to take things a little farther in the bedroom and took the intiative (did I satisfy the challenge, Cat? There were lots of long kisses). Didn't go too far (I'll spare you the details). But it was nice to start allowing that part of the relationship some room to develop. That was Saturday.

Monday I was feeling a bit of regret about it. Wondering if I am rushing this or am ready for it. I think it was less about the relationship than all the other things going on - moving, new job, new school for the kids, discovery of some $$ problems my former husband has which make his finanicial support of the kids shaky for the immediate future. I guess I was wondering if I was moving forward with something I really want when I've got all these other pressures too. I guess I am afraid I've got too many balls in the air. At the same time, this relationship works for me right now. He is funny, attractive, we have a lot in common and I have a great time when we are together or talk on the phone. I've got a guy who is understanding and is perfectly happy to follow my lead. He lets me know he wants to spend time with me but doesn't want to be a complication in my complicated life. I don't want the other insanity in my life to bleed into the one part of it that brings me only happiness and peace.

Today, I'm feeling better about the whole thing. Perhaps this is also just blowback about being in a new relationship after all these years of being with one person (a person who because of my wonderful children is still in my life). I know I've said this before, I need to get out of my head and enjoy my life.

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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 11:07am

Good for you for taking the initiative!!! You go! Think on things that are positive. Do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow has enough worries for itself.

Love,
Loonybunny

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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 11:22am
Why do you think you are going to quick? Did he say something that made you feel that way? Probably not and I think you are doing great! And yes, you have succeeded in the challenge.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 08-15-2007 - 5:59pm

Sounds like you did okay - and glad you are feeling better today. I think that dating later in life is just plain tricky - we have more to worry about and more at stake.

Keep us posted!