Anyhone here?? Roll call........
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Anyhone here?? Roll call........
| Fri, 07-29-2005 - 6:49am |
Ok, it's been quite this week on the board. Where is Judy? Did I miss something? Is she on vaca?
Let's do a roll call to find out who is on the board lurking...
Name, Age, State/Country, Kids and.... since it's Friday, what are your weekend plans?

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Catherine, 33, Germany (but in 32 more days: North Carolina), Kids: Alex, 11; Nina 4
Weekend consists of packing, packing and more packing! It's a never ending story. Shippers are coming next Tuesday (yikes) and then all my stuff will be gone. I am already sleeping on a air mattress with the girls since over a week because we threw our beds out and all other furniture that my mom won't be taking. Since we had to pre-order them to come and take the old stuff out of the house, we had to do it now, otherwise it wouldn't have come in time before I leave. So therefore, the reason for the air mattress.
I'm here, I've just been lurking more. Still working on my broken heart and trying to figure out where dd and I are going to buy a house, hopefully the end of this year. I've been touring the areas I can afford to live in and researching schools and trying not to spend any money so we can save, save, save.
I am 34 and dd just turned 5 on the 4th of July. We live in PA and we are going to Boston for the weekend to see my friend and her family. Our only cost is gas and snacks, we eat my friend's food while we are there :)
Awe Darlin,
It's going to take a long while. You have to think, that you just ONLY really stopped having contact with him just recently (or have you talked to him again?). Until you totally stop having contact, only THEN can you slowly work on the process of healing and that ISN'T going to happen overnight. I wish it would. I can feel how this has taken such a toll on your life at the moment. I am sure everything seems upside down right now and no real direction. Just make sure you don't beat yourself up. I'm glad your going to see a friend this weekend and get out of the State. I think that's a great idea to just let go and enjoy yourself.
As for the house, I know the feeling of WANTING something of your own and wanting to make that happen. I keep thinking how I want to finally have a home of my own as well. I'm going to be 34 this year and I still don't have one thing I can say I own. Hopefully in another year, I can turn that around.
Big big hugs,
Catherine
Yes, I don't expect it to happen overnight, I'm giving myself lots of time. I haven't talked to him again and I've been working very hard on stiffling the urge to call him and see how he is doing. My therapist is helping with that. I lost track of how long it's been since I saw him the last time, 6 weeks or so, I'd have to go in the archives and look.
I've been staying busy and trying to figure out where dd and I are going to live is a good distraction and a good direction to be going in. I moved north last summer because my ex-h got a job waaay north and it was in the middle between our two jobs. Then in April he went back to his old employer, which is south and closer to the city. I work west and I don't really like the area I live in now, the big benefit was it was closer to J, so there is no need to stay there. I want to move home to Colorado but my ex-h won't go, so I'm stuck here and I'm just going to make the best of it. I'm going to pick the area I want to live in and that I can afford and that I think I can be happy in, and my ex-h is just going to have to move to wherever that is to be near dd (ex-h knows the general area I'm looking and is okay with that, he's happy I won't force dd to move away from him and letting me pick which suburb to live in is a small consolation).
Hey Darlin, I can totally relate regarding the urge and itch of contacting someone that you know you shouldn't contact, but want to. Of course you care and of course you want to make sure he's ok. That's perfectly normal, because you do still love and care for him. If you have a fall back, then don't kick yourself, but try to stay on track with the help of your therapist and try to get out, get out, stay busy, stay busy.
How is your health doing?
This is turning into an update on me thread instead of a roll call. My health has been okay. I have been doing better at exercising, but just at home. I get so sad when I think of going to the gym, it just makes me think of J. I will go back, but I'm not feeling up to it right now, and I'm trying to do enough exercising at home instead. The humidity is what's killing me. I think the heat makes everyone feel lethargic, but it's a little amplified with the RA. When it's really hot and humid, I wake up and my feet are just throbbing. It has cooled off the last couple days and I'm so happy about that.
I am feeling a little down about the RA though. I am on the board of directors of a free-standing birth center and the wife of a former president of the board just died from an RA complication. When you get it really bad and have had it for a long time without effective treatments, it can move on from attacking just your joints to attacking your soft tissues like heart and lungs. This woman died from inflamed arteries. I don't even know them but somehow hearing of an actual person dying of this makes it more real. I'm not at risk I don't think, but my mom certainly is, I've always known this was a potential complication, although it is somewhat rare, it was never something that seemed like it could really happen to her but obviously it could, plus she has a ton of other health issues. They just didn't have effective treatments for RA a few years ago. The woman who died had it for 20 years, and she went into the hospital and died within 2 days. My mom has had it for 21-22 years and I wonder if this happened to her would I be able to get there in time? I don't know, I can't think about that too much. It just makes me wish even more that I could be near my family in case they suddenly need me, or I suddenly need them. If I had a downturn in my health I would have nobody to help me.
I so agree with you about the yardwork.
You sure have done your homework, especially with the school district thing - that is so important!!
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