Anyone else feeling self-conscious???
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| Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:40am |
Ok - the one thing we definitely all have in common is the fact that we are single moms so I am sure someone out there can relate to this.... There was a time when I had a cute and relatively tight little body - those days are long past for me. I gave birth (emerg. c-sections after full dilation and crowning) to two 9lb babies that were both nursed. I have not been intimate with anyone except my stbx for 10yrs and add the fact that I am carrying 15 extra pounds.
I have recently reconnected with a former co-worker and I am certain that once I move to my new place in a few more weeks that we will be taking our relationship to the next stage. He is divorced with no children and recently broke off an engagement with a young spinning instructor....I probably don't need to say more but, bottom line, I don't think he has been intimate with a woman who has had children. I am concerned that the state of my body will be a large turn off for him. I am very self conscious of my new jiggly parts (belly and D breasts). How am I am going to get over this hurdle...I don't want my self confidence (or lack there of) ruin what could be a really fun time...
Rose

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Thanks Florence - fundamentally I know you are right. There are some fabulous notes in this thread and lots of great advice. I think you are right, I know he has been interested in me for at least 10 years if not longer now. So I need to relax...breath, be sexy, breath....! :)
Rose
Hey! Share the WEALTH!
Your post made me laugh. I totally agree with the keeping the bra on. Plus if it is black and lacy it is a big turn on for most men. I am 50 and my BF just turned 49. He worries about his stamina - but let me tell you, he shouldn't!!! He thinks I am beautiful!! We met online and I posted my figure as "full-figured" when I thought I should just call it "overweight". After he saw me naked, he asked me why I thought I was full-figured (I am a D cup too). He thought I should have referred to myself as athletic!!! How's that for a laugh!! Before we slept together for the first time, he told me that I shouldn't worry about my body. He said this out of the blue one night when we were having drinks. I told him I needed to talk to him before we got together, referring to STDs, getting checked. He thought I was worried about my body - which I was as well. Anyway, he told me that any woman who has given birth should not worry about her body. It was so sweet!!!! And he works out regularly which has gotten me more into the gym. He has great arms and I am working on mine too!!
I think that's the only thing good about being older. I am not as obsessed about how I look as opposed to keeping healthy so I don't die younger than I have too! And as a result, I am probably in the best shape I've ever been in, even with a few extra pounds.
deb
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