Anyone had a tubal?
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Anyone had a tubal?
| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 9:25am |
I know this isn't the right place for this, but I do post in this community and feel like I know many of you ladies. After trying every birth control method under the sun and coming to the realization that I do not want to have anymore children, I made a tubal ligation consultation with my doctor. Anyone here have one? If so, how bad was the procedure? Do you feel any different afterwards?

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My secretary got one.
The thing is that you have to be VERY SURE. The doctor will ask you a lot of questions and if you cannot answer them all to be very sure he won't give you one. Personally I think you should wait until you are married again to make that decision. I felt the way you do now after my divorce and even before it. But now I want another baby!!
Anyway - just my two cents worth....
It was not a big deal for her - she did it as an outpatient. She was tired for a week but then okay.
Thanks for the feedback West. I have a lot of questions for my doctor, so I won't make my final decision until after the consultation. I've thought about this for at least a year. It has nothing to do with my current relationship status, except that I really, really, really don't want to get pregnant again. My son has some special needs (very bright, but has learning difficulties). I can't ever see me taking on another child. I like my body the way it is too and don't want to be pregnant again. I'm having side effects from my current form of birth control and I'm just sick of it.
My one big fear about a tubal is that something would go wrong with it and I'd end up pregnant on accident.
Just another opinion. My doctor told me he would not do a tubal for birth control unless he felt there was a danger to the mom in being pregnant again. He said he had seen complications he didn't like. I know LOTS of women get them, so I only say this so that you look into it carefully and are aware of the possible complications so you don't get surprised. You can probably find a lot of info on the net, but maybe you've done that already.
He doesn't express them if he has them. He doesn't have literature in his office to that effect.
What I have seen is he likes to use a natural approach to lots of things if possible. He's open to things like flax oil rather than hormone therapy, for instance.
I had a tubal after I gave birth to my last child...never regretted it! It was just about painless.
I was 36, married (unhappily) with 3 kids and very very sure of not wanting more. I agree with the poster who said you have to be very sure you don't want any more children. Unlike other forms of birth control, a tubal ligation is permanent, so you are making a final decision. It was definitely the right choice for me though.
You have to make the right decision for YOU.
Good-luck and I wish you the best whatever your decision.
Did you have any physical side effects from the surgery that lasted beyond the normal recovery time?
It sounds like you suffered from a lot of regret and emotional stuff.
I know 14 women that have had tubals. Not one of them had any complications or problems.
My mom had a tubal immediately following my birth, and never had one problem. My aunt had a tubal at the age of 25, she's now 52, never had a problem. The list goes on and on.
My dh had a vasectomy. If anything ever happens to him, I will IMMEDIATELY get a tubal. I do NOT want anymore kids. In fact, truth be told, I didn't want any after my first. Although I of course love Alex, I would have been just fine without him and certainly didn't have any desire, at all, to have another child.
One thing that I DO know, alot of women don't realize that if it weren't for the pill, they would have really bad, wicked periods. They never stop taking the pill, they go in for their tubal, they then quit using the pill and they blame the tubal - when in reality - it's simply how their body is when not regulated by hormones. I know of two doctors that both recommend that a woman go off of birth control for 6 months, allow her body to regulate itself, and then if everything is kosher, to go for the tubal.
Although I haven't had a tubal ligation, I have had 12 laparoscopies, which is how the tubal is performed, with scar tissue and stuff burnt off. The heal time for my laps is to go in on Thursday, have the surgery (I prefer to go under sedation - you don't have to - you can request a local only), sleep all day Thursday. Sleep most of the day Friday and feel a little ouchy. Rest and take it easy on Saturday and Sunday - back to work Monday. That is pretty common, from what I understand.
Mindy
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