Anyone had a tubal?
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Anyone had a tubal?
| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 9:25am |
I know this isn't the right place for this, but I do post in this community and feel like I know many of you ladies. After trying every birth control method under the sun and coming to the realization that I do not want to have anymore children, I made a tubal ligation consultation with my doctor. Anyone here have one? If so, how bad was the procedure? Do you feel any different afterwards?

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there was some pain, and bruising but basically they tell you just to get rest and no heavy lifting
I had to go about my usual routine
I looked after my kids with help from my friends my kids were not quite 2 and almost 5
I took my dd to school my ex wasn't very supportive obviously he left not even two weeks after I had this surgery and before I went back for a check-up to have some stitches removed his aunt was going to help look after our kids but she left my ex was being an a** it was not a very pleasant time for me I had a friend's daughter take the kids out for Halloween surgery was that day but my ex was working next day like I said things were pretty much left up to me my friends helped me cope I was an emotional wreck you are correct I didn't want any more kids with HIM but he wouldn't have a vasectomy I never knew he was leaving me and our kids until after the surgery but I don't regret it I love my two kids and at the time I didn't want any more and didn't want to be on the pill any more and he my now ex actually boasted about how many times he could have sex with me before getting me pregnant it was an abusive marriage extremely abusive emotionally and physically
you just need someone to pick you up after surgery and stay with you possibly for a few hours or overnite
my ex was late picking me up after surgery and didn't stay with our kids he didn't want anymore kids either
I did it for me
I think the most important part of your post is that you expressed that YOU do not want any more children so it's something you're considering based on your feelings. And not to step on anyone's toes but I strongly believe the only reason to have kids, or to have more kids is that you want kids (or more kids if you already have one). I had a tubal about 3 years ago. Dh and I had been together for about a year and even though when we first talked about living together I'd told him I really didn't want more children but if he felt strongly, he had until I was thirty-two to change his mind and I'd be open to it. But by the time we'd been living together almost 6 months and now were engaged, I had a heart to heart with him to find out if he'd be comfortable with us just making that decision permanent and he was absolutely on the same page as me, so I made that decision at 30. We have my dd and although he didn't have kids previously he loves being a dad to our dd. But we just didn't want anymore children. Do I wish sometimes she was biologically his? Sure do. But do I wish we had another child so we would have one that was biologically ours? Nope. Never. And neither does he. The fact is that I'd always planned to have only one child, she's a great kid and truthfully there is nothing about pregnancy or childbearing that agrees with me. I'm not talking about I don't like the weight gain or any of that. I'm talking about the fact that my migraines got much worse with pregancy because of the hormones, that I threw up for 4 months straight and numerous times during my pregancy had to have iv fluids because I ended up so dehydrated and then was in labor for nearly 36 hours and hard labor (contractions 2 minutes apart) for about 20 hours, and then they were worried because my uterus wasn't cooperating after birth and were worried about the bleeding. Sorry to be so graphic and I don't mean poor me, just that while I love my dd, the thought of going through all that again sure wasn't incentive for having another child.
As far as the procedure itself, I went under, it was out-patient surgery and the problem I had was that I had a great deal of pain and am a fairly slender woman (and the time still vastly underwieght) so the amount of pain meds they felt comfortable giving me were not helping at all. Even at 12 I had a naturally high drug tolerance but they look more at your weight when judging how much to give. They almost kept me overnight because I was still in so much pain in the recovery room and didn't want to give me any more pain meds. But thankfully, MG was there with me and stepped into the hall with the docs and said "Look, she's obviously still in pain and will be all right when that subsides. You say you can't give her anything more or anything different but look at what you've given her--you would expect her to be sound asleep with that amount and she's not even been able to drift off." So once they got the pain under control, it was all good. The only other real problem is that I'm super stubborn and always try to do too much too soon; if you have it done, rest the next couple days after and that doesn't mean running errands or any house cleaning, it means sit on the dang couch and watch tv or read or embroider if that suits your fancy. (As an aside, I did the same dang thing when I had all 4 of my wisdom teeth out at 27 and went to work the next day even though the oral surgeon had considered it appropriate to put me under for that). One other thing to mention; expect some pretty serious gas (again sorry to be graphic but . . .) because they basically blow up your stomache so they can see what they're doing. They try to get all the air out but I know I had some of that and so did my friend from college, who had hers when she was 21 because she has a heart condition that would make it almost certainly fatal to get pregnat.
There is a slight risk of course of ectopic pregnancy. And yes, dh actually knows someone through his work that got pregnant after a tubal but that's such a small percentage that it's not sometime to lose sleep over. For me, I definitely didn't want to get pregnant, was in a committed relationship so didn't want to rely on condoms, and with my family history of strokes, and my migraines, it was becoming risky to stay on the Pill.
Thanks a lot for your response. It's nice to hear from someone else who has decided that she's done after one. I'm 34 yrs old and while that's not too old to have another child I don't see how one would fit into my life and I like things the way they are. I love my son to pieces, but I didn't like being pregnant and the thought of starting over from scratch with a newborn just does not appeal to me.
I've tried the Pill and currently have an IUD. The side effects of both are unacceptable for me. I do not want to use condoms. Talk about a joy kill. My biggest fear is an accidental pregnancy and the fear grows the older I get. I can't afford an oopsy.
That's funny about your wisdom tooth surgery. I did the EXACT same thing. It was too funny because I was teaching English as a Second Language at the time. I went to work the next day and tried to teach a class with my face severely swollen. I will definitely rest after the tubal.
nightangel,
Your ex sounds like the biggest jerk. Count your blessings that you are not with him anymore. I wish you the best.
Tricia
Someone once told me recently that I am a glutton for punishment, because I told them. I would have 4 more children if I could. Even being single. It is really hard with my two, but they are such a joy in my life and they make me sooooooooo happy, that I often wish that I could have more without baring the scarlet letter on my head. Having two different children from two different men is still hard to accept, when you aren't with either anymore, but having three children, from three different men, is pretty.....
Well, it just causes people to judge you wrong, without knowing the background.
Kill me if you will, but Scott and I discussed having another child 2 yrs ago when we were thinking of finally tying the knot. I told him I was thinking of a tubal and what he thought of it and he said he wouldn't mind having another child. He was the only person where I can/could of said, ok, I'll do it again, with or without his support, because I really want another child and it wouldn't be that risky 3 different men scar on my forehead. With my X-husband, forget it. Just the health issues are way tooo risky.
You aren't the only one!
Some women are CRAZY about parenting. And some of us are just crazy about our kid. Our single kid. My DH and I were still trying to decide whether to make a permanant birth control decision. Especially after an unplanned pregnancy gone so wrong a year ago. I to hate hate HATED being pregnant. And after all the complications, knowing I'd be high risk again, and having a nearly 11 year old working on being independant (which gave DH and I a lot more freedom) we were pretty sure we wouldn't decide to do it again.
I again got accidentally pregnant, while on a down month from my pill. I was taking a cycle to make a change to at least a better form. I was supposed to be using "back up" for a month. I hadn't told my DH I was doing this. And
ME TOO! HOW FUNNY! That is exactly how I got pregnant! Under the Christmas tree on X-mas Eve! LOL
That means baby is due in September. Right?
"And in a slightly tipsy, after a christmas party, half way under the tree moment...I forgot."
BRAVO - that is hilarious!! LOL!!
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