Anyone in the Palm Springs CA area?

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Anyone in the Palm Springs CA area?
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:42pm

I have this incredible wedding to go to in September, in Palm Spring. But i was thinking of making a side trip to the Grand Canyon.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:57am

Yes, Moon, you totally get it. I am over PsychoBoy, but when stuff happens that has a direct correlation to icky things he did to me I have to believe it is the evil washing back on him. He actually is the one who would say it was some karmic revenge when something bad would happen to him soon after he did something to me he was feeling guilty about. The dance story is actually worse than it seems. He signed US up for lessons when we were in counseling and he was saying things were over with the OW. She was still in the picture and suggested the lessons so he would be a better dancer for HER and it would be paid for out of our community property before the divorce. So when I wanted to do the regular ballroom steps and maybe Tango and he insisted on all Latin dances, I knew something was not right. In spite of being a musician as a avocation, he is the stiffest dancer, she can have him. So really, when S16 told me where the accident happened I just cracked up. the insurance being lapsed is a whole other story so it is a double karmic whammy.

QueenBun

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:00pm
I'll have to post a separate update, I've hi-jacked Rebecca's thread here. I really think we all should do the Palm Springs trip. Margarita's by the pool, first round on me!
QueenBun
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:04pm

I'm way past that kind of anger at PsychoBoy, in spite of the fact he creates new situations to be angry about. It comes with time, counseling helps a lot. I'm just so happy with my life now i can't waste energy on being negative. But when something bad happens, and don't get me wrong, I'm glad he wasn't hurt, it would be hard on my kids if he was, but when something bad happens that has a direct correlation to something he did to hurt me, I have to think it is that whole karmic balance- do evil, reap evil.

QueenBun

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:13pm

Palm Springs trip. Margarita's by the pool, first round on me!


I'm SO in!

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 09-01-2006
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:21pm

Hey Queen Bun - You are definitely more at peace than I am but I totally agree with you.


Believe me...I don't want my ex

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 5:57pm
I can see where you would crack up - especially about the dancing and insurance parts.
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Registered: 10-12-2004
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 7:40am
I hope I'm never bitter or resentful enough to take ANY pleasure in an ex's
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 12:29pm

I am neither bitter nor resentful. I am way past the hurt I felt from things my X has done and am happy with the life I have made for myself without him. It is just ironic and I assure you, my X was thinking the same thing when this all happened. PsychoBoy has done some pretty evil things to me and to our sons, deliberate and premeditated evil. I don't seek revenge, it just seems to find him all on it's own. It is the specific correlation to something he did that was not nice, that he knew was not nice at the time he did it, that makes the situation funny. If he were the one who actually told me about it, I assure you he'd laugh that it was Karma kicking him in the butt. And I must not be giving off a bad vibe because I've had no problem attracting men and keeping the one who was best for the person I am now. Lighten up.

Queenbun

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