Are They ALL Like This?!?
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| Thu, 11-17-2005 - 4:08pm |
I'm so tired of things. I already have enough drama in my life with my ex and his family, so I KNOW that I don't need anymore. But, life seems to be throwing me some hard balls right now, and I'm just tired of it.
My EMT instructor basically made a play for me the other night. When things didn't go like he wanted them to he became angry at me. Then, my CPR instructor did the same thing. Both of these men are married and some odd years older than I am. I haven't made any advances for either of these men. I go to class, do my work, and pay attention. I would probably understand the come ons if I were in any way, shape, or form hitting on them or flirting, but I'm not. Why can't they just be professional?
The CPR guy, who is also an EMT, keeps calling on of my friends in the class and asking about me. He keeps saying that his marriage is really rocky, blah, blah, blah, the classic cheater crap that they all say. He keeps asking my friend if it would be okay to call me. Well...at first I just tried to ignore it. I told my friend that I would NEVER date a married man, and I would not date a supervisor at a business where I was hoping to get a job after I take my state boards. However, this man is very persistant. I don't want to make anyone mad, and maybe that's just me being a little immature when it comes to dealing with these types of things. If I make these people mad then they will make it very hard for me to get a job later on. I've never been in this type of situation before, so I'm sorry if I sound silly and naive. I just don't understand why these people can't be professional. Why is it that these married me want to look outside of their marriage.
I'm a firm believe that if someone will do it with you then they will do it to you, for the most part. If they cheat on their spouses with someone, then they will cheat on you too. I would never be with a married man, nor would I cheat on my spouse. So, I guess my question is how do I deal with these men in a professional manner and not make anyone angry so that my career is not jeopardized?
Kait

Your first sentence says it all. And understandably so after all you have been through.
I was thinking of a picture you could put in your head. Imagine you are a beautiful princess on a tropical island. No worries. You have a castle with servants and fine things. You are smart and kind and wonderful.
Of course you have all kinds of suitors - most princesses do. But you are holding out for the prince that really cares about you and has a lot to offer and makes you feel wonderful. So you smile kindly but say no firmly and keep on going about your day when those who are not fit for you take interest. You don't take it personally that those who admire you are unworthy. And their bids do you no harm.
Now - this may be imagined - but you really are a beautiful princess - you just don't have the castle or the island.
Be firm with the no and then forget about it. Ignore their unwelcome words and looks and advances and stay on topic - which is to train for your new career and life and get a job. They might not like that at first but they will get over it. Then they will respect you.
They are not all like that. Have faith!!
Ah Kait,
With all your stress, what's one more?