Argh!

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Argh!
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Fri, 04-23-2010 - 6:12pm

Ok... so I had a lunch date with this guy 3 weeks ago today.

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Registered: 03-14-2010
In reply to: michleutz
Fri, 04-23-2010 - 6:37pm

Although I might be tempted to say that he must just not be all that into you, after dating guys in their late 40's early 50's and finding the same problem, it just is a thing with guys who have responsibilities. I have learned to point out before hand that I will be making adjustments in my schedule to accommodate him so he is less likely to flake out. Hey, but if you can get younger men instead- go for it. LOL

QB

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: michleutz
Fri, 04-23-2010 - 7:22pm

i was going to say the same thing that QB said... he's just not into you if he changes plans because he's "tired"... but i haven't dated many 40+. maybe it is legit.


If he flakes, my opinion is go out to the College bar and enjoy your kid free night. Or call up some girls and meet up with them. Either way I hope you have a great evening. Some of my best nights were last minute change of plans.


Loonybunny

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Registered: 11-22-2006
In reply to: michleutz
Fri, 04-23-2010 - 8:59pm
My first thought after reading this was "man - the way guys are if he knew you were just looking for an FWB he would probably be wide awake"
What a dweeb. His total loss. Or as my 11 year old says "FAIL"
Sorry for the trouble of getting the night off though. I hope you still go out and have fun!!!
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In reply to: michleutz
Fri, 04-23-2010 - 8:59pm
That's too bad. I had this one "friend" I met on OLD about 10 yrs ago when we were around 40. I knew he was a workaholic then. We only had a couple of dates, then I met my 2nd DH. So last fall we met up again. We were going to meet for lunch and it took a couple of weeks to arrange that, a couple of changes because his work project was taking longer than he thought (he's a web designer/videographer/producer so it's not like he has a regular 9-5 job, it's more like projects all the time), then finally we only met for dinner cause I found out he happened to be working a couple of miles from where I live. Then I contacted him recently & was told that he had been working out of state but he would call me when he got back--no call. I do think it's difficult to combine someone who has a schedule like that w/ a mom who has to work around her kids. But then you don't want someone w/ no job either (esp as you get older, you want someone who has a "career" not just a job). I can't really go for the college bar guys--that would be my DD's age, so too creepy. lol
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Registered: 04-14-2006
In reply to: michleutz
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 1:23pm

Well he texted about 9, they were stuck in oregon and he said he wasn't getting back into town til after 11, and he had an hour drive home, so he canceled.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
In reply to: michleutz
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 7:46pm

Dang it! Sorry to read this.


I don't know what to tell you about the age thing. I'm the opposite- my men have to be at least 5 years older, but no more than 12.


Date the age range with which you are comfortable. If the mid-twenties are more your type, GO FOR IT!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: michleutz
Mon, 04-26-2010 - 10:02am

He does honestly sound very busy with his job.