Argh, I'm so tired of the drama with ex

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Argh, I'm so tired of the drama with ex
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:28pm
I don't remember if I said in my other post but some other stuff has happened. I said something to my daycare provider who is an in home provider that dd's been with since she was 18 months old and it came out that her dd who is an adult now saw ex downtown "hanging out with horrible street people" and was so wasted he couldn't stand up. There were kids with the group so she doubled back to make sure dd was not among them (thankfully no she wasn't). Anyway, then dh got a call from ex on Friday at work with ex saying that there'd been a horrible misunderstanding and wanting to explain what happened. He told dh that he was in the hospital now because he tried to kill himself. Then he told him a story that wasn't believable but dh said he'd check it out but that whatever he said honestly right now was suspect due to what we did already know. And then ex hung up on him. I was actually there during the conversation because I'd gone down to his work so he'd have a way home because his brakes failed on the way there on Friday (another not so good piece of news but at least he was able to shift down gears and feather his emergency brake so he didn't have an accident when he found out on the highway approaching almost stopped traffic that he had no brakes).

So yesterday I got a call from ex's brother, who lives in another state, because he wanted to find out if I knew what hospital ex was in (he didn't tell his brother why he was there and his brother assumed he was in for treatment)and he wanted to make sure they did a suicide watch because he'd called him to tell him that he'd lost dd forever and was going to kill himself and wanted to say goodbye. He told his brother a completely different lie about what had happened the Sat I'd written about in the other post. And this morning dh said that he'd left a message on his voicemail over the weekend that he was going to commit suicide and please don't tell dd afterward how he died because children of parents that commit suicide are more likely to do that themselves. I was so angry. I know it sounds cold to be angry rather than worried but for one I believe it's more just trying to get sympathy and two, that to me just tells you how little he cares about dd, that he is aware how traumatic that would be but doesn't care enough to get himself straight. ARGH.

And I was especially irritated because I woke up feeling so good about the world, we got our first snowfall, dd was just great this morning and my mood definitely fell from there. Speaking of which I should stop venting or my lunch hour here will be over before I get all my errands done.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 3:38pm

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Kim

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:10pm
I agree with this post and just want to say good luck and hang in there. Life can sure deal a tough set of cards at times.