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article on communication
| Thu, 01-24-2008 - 1:46pm |
I subscribe to a newsletter called the Passionate Heart, and this article came today. Good Stuff! Happy reading :o) (problem is...I don't really see a solution!)
When it comes to communication and your potential relationships theres an
issue that may be a much bigger problem than you might have
imagined...
To know how big this communication issue is for you in your
relationships,

I find truth in the article... there is a big difference between simply being honest, and being brutally honest. My ex liked being brutally honest because he loved to slam people with his thoughts, opinions and comments. Being honest in communication isn't just spreading your opinion all over the place (as he did)! Being honest in communication, IMO- has to do with being HONEST WITH YOURSELF when you communicate your thoughts and feelings.
There's a difference in how important it is to talk on eggshells or not- to questions such as these:
"Does this make my butt look big?", or "How do you like my new hair?" or "Do you like this song or band?" as opposed to questions like these:
"Would you like to have more children?" or "What do you think about living together before getting married?"
In the first set... it probably won't hurt you to use tact and fudge a bit- because it doesn't really disrupt being honest with yourself. The second set though- if you don't respond in a way that is representative of your TRUE feelings on the matter, or you answer a certain way because you think the other person wants something different and you don't want to hurt his feelings... then that would be a huge problem! Those are the things that could come back and bite you if you don't just stay true to yourself.
I always wish that I would've learned to be true to myself much sooner. It would've saved me from alot of sticky relationship situations where I didn't want to be in!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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ITA, Shrimps.
Plus, there's timing.
I always wish that I would've learned to be true to myself much sooner. It would've saved me from alot of sticky relationship situations where I didn't want to be in!
Yes shrimps - I surely agree and have lived this!