Ask him to remove POF profile?

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Ask him to remove POF profile?
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 1:31pm

He is still on POF but doesnt sign on very often. Still I would like it if he werent on there at all. I think this stems from finding my ex fiance on there and active while we were still together. So, should I ask him to remove his profile?

And one other thing that is mainly just a vent. I look at his facebook occasionally and EMT has a new female friend on there almost daily. Almost all of his facebook friends are females. Would this bother anyone else? There is nothing I can do about it except stop looking.

Laurie

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 1:45pm
I would definitely ask him to remove it. If not, you are going to worry about it and it will affect how you feel and cause trust issues.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 2:20pm

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 3:02pm
If you are exclusive then yes, ask him to remove his profile.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 4:18pm

Its many females on his facebook. Most of his friends on there are women. New ones each day. Its weird. Yes we had the exclusive talk a while back which is why the POF profile concerns me.

Laurie

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 6:27pm
You shouldn't be able to tell unless you made your own account? Did you and if you did, obviously you have a reason for feeling insecure. I definitely would put my foot down and say NO freaking way are you supposed to have it posted. As for the FB thing, I would also not be happy and I would have an overall conversation about how uncomfortable you are.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:23pm
I would ask him to. You are exclusive so no more fishing is necessary.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:59pm

I took myself off POF the day after the exclusive talk. I do have a Facebook account that he is listed as in a relationship with. He thinks its ok to have a POF profile if he is not looking and answering emails. But he doesnt understand that its uncomfortable to me knowing that other women are looking and emailing him. Which is what makes it all so confusing. He has an account that he doesnt use. But he is listed on a profile as single and looking. It makes me feel like he is leaving it there for the next best thing that comes along or if we dont work out he wont have to go about having to repost it again if he wants to start dating again soon.

ARRGGHHHH

Laurie

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 9:14am
he is leaving himself open. Putting single and looking is putting yourself out their. POF is completely UNACCEPTABLE.