Avenues of introduction

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Avenues of introduction
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Mon, 10-08-2007 - 5:25pm

Okay - I have decided to make a list of what I am doing to meet someone - thought I would share and just report to give an update. Updates are fun? Right? Maybe it will spurn more ideas for me or you guys? All comments and ideas appreciated!!

1) Cross country running coach - I volunteered to help and they made me coach! So I can come in contact with a lot more people and it is fun to be social and volunteer -plus my kid is getting a great cross country running team experience he might not get otherwise

2) biking out and about

3) swimming with the local masters team at the YMCA

4) running out and about

5) local little races for off season - running, biking, swimming - there are a plethora of things to do locally

6) walking the dogs at the park or just out and about with them

7) talking to an HS alumni friend I met on facebook - she is friends with a lot of the alumni here locally and they get together once a month for alumni functions and networking and that would be fun to see everyone....

8) Good ole match.com - although the really good prospects are thin - at least it is a way to meet more single people who are looking for dating and a relationship

9) going to an Ironman race out of town with coach and other people - should be fun

10) will probably attend my triathlete holiday parties that are coming up

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:17am

Well I don't really have any ideas for you. Sounds like all your interests are focused on fitness though. I know it is important to you but you must have some other interests that could put you in contact with some people. Just a thought. My guess is there isn't a whole lot of chit-chatting going on in the pool.

I'm also kind of curious. How in the world do you find time for all of that? I can't imagine having that much time to do anything for myself. Between working and my kids, I'm lucky if I have 1 hour to myself a day and that time is usually spent showering, or other such necessary things. We have been on our own for a year and a half and have gotten into a pretty good routine but there is never that much time for mom. Maybe there will be more once soccer season ends but it won't be long until it is baseball season.

Priscilla

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 11:23am

I do get to chat with the guys at the pool - and they have parties from time to time so that is good. Plus it is my workout - I do it early in the morning after I get DS and the dogs up. He can get himself ready and walk to the new carpool just a few doors down.

The alumni group should give a whole new focus - it is people my age who live here who went to the same highschool. They get together for the HS football game and their alumni college games - and meet like twice a month. Apparently they are all single! What a goldmine that is!!

And the school stuff, even though running related, is actually a private Catholic school so it adds people of my faith. They have parties and as I get to know more of the moms they can keep an eye out for me for a nice single guy!!

As to how I have the time - I squeeze it in. I work from home and that helps a lot. I can run right before dinner or bike right before lunch. Of course it means I work every day too but I don't care.

I do have a lot of energy and don't want someone who is not into fitness - because that is really important to me. I also don't like bars or a lot of drinking - never have - so that is important too.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 1:27pm

Hi, I just wanted to say that you should not overlook someone who may not exactly have your interests. Me and my guy are totally opposite in some aspects but we are also very much alike in some other ways. He is a fitness freak and I like to remain fit but Iam not crazy about exercises but I regulate my diet in a way that I look fresh and fit. He on the other hand was very bad with eating good food.. Not that he would eat junk. He was living alone and survived a lot on fruits cereal and fat free milk..lol. Now we both eat properly - I love to cook.. balanced with vegges and meat. and I improved my exercise routine.. We have similar values and morals which helps a lot.


He had doubts in the beginning about our differences in interets since he was a biking freak and he knew how I was.. But surprisingly we have such a bond and something that it is a unique and happy relationship.

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 3:41pm

I do agree with you. I don't have to have a triathlete or superfit guy - not at all and I have dated many who were not - they were fit from the gym or something else they enjoy. If he plays golf or tennis or racquetball or whatever, we are good and this is what my match profile says. I just won't have a couch potato or smoker or the type of guy who likes to stay out late drinking. There are many who consider going to dinner an activity and that is not enough for me.

(edited to add - the training is for ME - if I do meet someone that way great but if not great - it keeps me fit and happy and out of the house).




Edited 10/9/2007 3:48 pm ET by cl-west1745
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Registered: 09-29-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 4:45pm

Meeting people at our age can be ridiculously funny, or just plain ridiculous! Everyone here has at least a few Match.com stories (maybe an idea for a discussion thread?) but I agree it is the best way to contact a very,very large number of people who are looking for someone. I actually met my current beau using Match. Who'd a thunk it?


I love the way you combined a passion of yours (running) with some volunteer work (coaching). It most likely won't lead to too many contacts but you will get much bigger rewards, so you will be even a better catch.


I have to agree that finding someone with the same interests is both hard and probably won't mesh as well as finding someone with some good common interests (TV does NOT count) and using our differences to test the relationship and grow the waters. My girl loves classic rock, light jazz and blues. I'm a punk, new wave and alternative rocker. We don't like all the music but have music in common. Some of our best dates have been the ones where we introduced each other to something we wouldn't otherwise have chosen. I've taken her to concerts and shows for artists I love, and she has taken me to the same for her. While we didn't always love the date or the artist, we always had fun and it gave us a new perspective to ponder. We like doing this type of thing so much that we wound up both joining a local jazz and blues foundation so that we can do something interesting together.


Bars still don't work (if you are at a bar at our age, you are either clearly looking for some luvin' or have a problem with alcohol, LOL) and all the "methods" like bookstores, church, shopping and the like don't usually pan out as well. Volunteering in your community, say for a township event like a clean-up or something sponsored by your Environmental Commission or Parks and Recreation department seem to always be good ways to meet good people.


Either way, you are very outgoing so you will do just fine. If you are ever in the NY/NJ/CT Tri-state area, let me know. I have plenty of friends who would be interested...

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 7:59pm

Acks - why can't you and your friends live in FL!!??

I agree with the "bar" part. We do have a very nice casino area here though with a lot of live music and concerts all outdoors - and I do LOVE live music - and so that is okay on occasion. I am hoping my alumni pals pull through for me on that one.

I did just meet the nicest guy in the park. He was training his dogs - 3 of them - and 2 of them would wait while one went to get the frisbee. The other two would stay and hold their frisbees til it was their turn. It was amazing to me and I did tell him so - I was riding my bike there. He was about my age and liked my compliment. But then I rode away. Stupid me!! Should have asked for his training card - he did say he does that on the side. But I also didn't want to disturb his training effort.

It is good to hear you found a good one on match!! Keep us posted!!