AW! COME ON! HE MUST BE JOKING?..
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AW! COME ON! HE MUST BE JOKING?..
| Sun, 04-10-2005 - 4:37pm |
Guess who called me? None other then Alex's father again. Out of the Blue. The last time was 2 yrs ago to tell me he loved me. What is it NOW!!!!?
Sorry, I asked!
He told me he is flying down to Texas because he HAS to see me and we HAVE to talk about a LOT OF THINGS! What could that mean? Everytime he says that it gets wierd. He usually asks to marry me. Wait! No, the five years aren't up yet. We are only almost 2 yrs since he asked me last and it's always every 5 yrs. So I actually have another 3 to go. He isn't getting married is he? But he said he was really unhappy with his life, so he can't be unhappy if he's getting married, right?
The last time he said he wanted to see me a year and a half ago I broke out in Hives. Remember? I was so stressed after we had broken up, but I was supposed to see his mother and then when he said he would be their, I had those awful hives around my hips. Can't remember what it's called in English, but really AWFUL and dangerous to get. So I couldn't make my flight. It cancelled. Why is he doing this to me? Why can't he tell me over the phone? Ok, what could be sooo IMPORTANT that he has to see me in person?
Sorry, I asked!
He told me he is flying down to Texas because he HAS to see me and we HAVE to talk about a LOT OF THINGS! What could that mean? Everytime he says that it gets wierd. He usually asks to marry me. Wait! No, the five years aren't up yet. We are only almost 2 yrs since he asked me last and it's always every 5 yrs. So I actually have another 3 to go. He isn't getting married is he? But he said he was really unhappy with his life, so he can't be unhappy if he's getting married, right?
The last time he said he wanted to see me a year and a half ago I broke out in Hives. Remember? I was so stressed after we had broken up, but I was supposed to see his mother and then when he said he would be their, I had those awful hives around my hips. Can't remember what it's called in English, but really AWFUL and dangerous to get. So I couldn't make my flight. It cancelled. Why is he doing this to me? Why can't he tell me over the phone? Ok, what could be sooo IMPORTANT that he has to see me in person?

Hmmm..... this is the Navy SEAL? Correct?
I have mixed emotions on this one. I am not sure what to tell you. Go with your gut instinct. See if you can talk to him more now. Are you going to Texas or North Carolina on this trip?
Tell us more.
I am going to NC and Texas. Their isn't really much to tell. I told Alex this morning and she said "I hope he isn't asking you to marry him again". I always think that is sooo funny that his own daughter doesn't want me to marry him. You would think that she would be thrilled. Instead she said, "We'll all just be miserable with the way you two fight."
Truth out of the mouth of babes.
I would be tempted to pass on the talk or to demand that he tells you now over the phone. You are busy and have a lot of stress and don't want surprises or something to worry about. Be up front and be firm.
You really need this vacation and don't need the aggravation he has presented in the past. But it is your call. Just make sure you put yourself first. I know you will, you have been on a roll lately.
Keep us posted.
Cat,
Do you mind if I ask for just a little backround info on Alex's father? I don't know the story.
Amy
18 years of back and forth love and hate and whirwind proposals with a Navy Seal? I'm sorry Cat, I dont mean to be insensitive. I realize that this has not been a good thing for you, but the way it's playing itself out in my head, I think I need cold shower.
Amy
I think you're right Cat. And I don't think it's you that hasn't been ready (as he showed when he back out last time)...he's not ready for a full commitment. I think he's just hoping you will take less, don't you? I'm glad you value yourself more than that.
Why can't he tell you over the phone? Sounds like he's being kind of dramatic.
I've let go. I noticed when we talked, I basically hung up on him and I sounded so "WHO CARES!". He is over 30 now and he can't change. He should try to be a father instead of trying to mess with my head. I am actually pretty calm about it all, but I would like to know why he feels he has to try and ruin my vacation. I wanted to get away from everything, not from one drama into another. Trying not to analyse, trying not to analyse, trying not to analyse. LOL ;)