Don't be afraid to log into your account and reply to messages, you are not exclusive with this guy, so if he sees you online he has nothing to say about it!
Do not be available to talk to him tonight, if he calls let it go to voicemail. Tomorrow you can call him and ask how his weekend was. "I had a GREAT time, thanks- can't WAIT to go back!" is ALL you tell him about your weekend. If he doesn't answer the phone, "hey, it's Kiddo, got back from my fabulous weekend and thought I'd say hi"
And if he doesn't bring up a meeting to get together when you talk to him, do NOT suggest a meeting.
Don't say you miss him lots- then he knows you're wrapped around his finger and he can treat you as he pleases... Say, "I'd love to see you, but I've already committed myself to ____ on Wed night... I'm available on Sunday afternoon if you'd like to meet up then.."
And honey, 40 mins is NOTHING! My sweetie is about 5 hours away- when you add in travel time for the FERRY... :P
You are not exclusively dating this guy- so if you want to check your emails tonight and not call him til tomorrow, then DO!
I'll be honest, I didn't like this:
"He IS REEEEEEALLY sensetive to that sort of thing. He sort of gives off the impression that he would just pack it up if there is tooooo much push, but I'm not totally sure. It could either be a really good thing, or could send him runnin real fast, a definate risk. He once told me that he likes his gf to be a little bit 'clingy',"
This sounds like a possible controlling, jealousy ridden and abusive situation waiting to happen. He is ALREADY manipulating you to act/ react a certain way- DO pay attention to that!
I do not believe it's a lack of confidence for you, I think something is WRONG and your gut is sending out warning bells! He's already playing games and doesn't like that you did your thing- he was disappearing until you asserted that you were going off without him and suddenly he was calling and calling. He'll get you back to the point where he feels you're fawning over you and then *poof* he'll disappear again. Just keep that in mind when you deal with him, ok?
And your comment about the guys who you're not interested in falling for you hard- examine how you deal with THEM in comparison to the guys you ARE interested in and see what is different in your demeanour, mannerisms, speech, style, etc.
Hello kiddo and welcome. I think you are coming to a good conclusion here and I did agree with what Alison says.
Just try to focus on other things and let this one fall into place if it was meant to be. Don't play games or try to push him. You both have to take your time to get to know each other and gain respect for each other. I find that honesty and "living in the light" are always the best approaches.
Ooo- I'm glad you had a good time!
Don't be afraid to log into your account and reply to messages, you are not exclusive with this guy, so if he sees you online he has nothing to say about it!
Do not be available to talk to him tonight, if he calls let it go to voicemail. Tomorrow you can call him and ask how his weekend was. "I had a GREAT time, thanks- can't WAIT to go back!" is ALL you tell him about your weekend. If he doesn't answer the phone, "hey, it's Kiddo, got back from my fabulous weekend and thought I'd say hi"
And if he doesn't bring up a meeting to get together when you talk to him, do NOT suggest a meeting.
Thanks Alison!
Don't say you miss him lots- then he knows you're wrapped around his finger and he can treat you as he pleases... Say, "I'd love to see you, but I've already committed myself to ____ on Wed night... I'm available on Sunday afternoon if you'd like to meet up then.."
And honey, 40 mins is NOTHING! My sweetie is about 5 hours away- when you add in travel time for the FERRY... :P
Eeeh Gad...I panicked and sent a text tonight....I just said "Totally wish you were here! ;)".
You are not exclusively dating this guy- so if you want to check your emails tonight and not call him til tomorrow, then DO!
I'll be honest, I didn't like this:
"He IS REEEEEEALLY sensetive to that sort of thing. He sort of gives off the impression that he would just pack it up if there is tooooo much push, but I'm not totally sure. It could either be a really good thing, or could send him runnin real fast, a definate risk. He once told me that he likes his gf to be a little bit 'clingy',"
This sounds like a possible controlling, jealousy ridden and abusive situation waiting to happen. He is ALREADY manipulating you to act/ react a certain way- DO pay attention to that!
I do not believe it's a lack of confidence for you, I think something is WRONG and your gut is sending out warning bells! He's already playing games and doesn't like that you did your thing- he was disappearing until you asserted that you were going off without him and suddenly he was calling and calling. He'll get you back to the point where he feels you're fawning over you and then *poof* he'll disappear again. Just keep that in mind when you deal with him, ok?
And your comment about the guys who you're not interested in falling for you hard- examine how you deal with THEM in comparison to the guys you ARE interested in and see what is different in your demeanour, mannerisms, speech, style, etc.
Thanks Alison!!!
Hello kiddo and welcome. I think you are coming to a good conclusion here and I did agree with what Alison says.
Just try to focus on other things and let this one fall into place if it was meant to be. Don't play games or try to push him. You both have to take your time to get to know each other and gain respect for each other. I find that honesty and "living in the light" are always the best approaches.