Back from New Orleans

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Back from New Orleans
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:30pm

And Hiker & I had a SUPER time. :-) :-) :-)

We flew out on Saturday and had that evening to wander around the French Quarter a bit. Did some shopping and a little sight-seeing (of just the area in general). Then found a little hole-in-the-wall (but very clean) place across the street from our hotel for sushi. YUMOLA!!! It was the most excellent sushi we've ever had! If I'm ever back in NO, I will for sure eat there again.

It was romantic to visit the French Quarter with Hiker. It was romantic to huddle under an umbrella and walk around during the times that those early-afternoon showers came. It was fun to ride the paddlewheel steamboat for a tour of the Mississippi River. It was fun to see all the creatures in the Aquarium. It was fun trying a little bit of slots in Harrah's... where we played $5 each into some penny slots and I managed to turn mine into $15! Woohooo! Big money! lol

It was fun geocaching all over the French Quarter on the day he had to go to work (it was a business trip for him, turned into vacation with some extra days added on).

It was yummy eating fried alligator and cajun food. It was hot and sexy and romantic to attack each other in the hotel. hehehe ;-) It was nice and relaxing to use the hotel hot tub and pool. It was cool haunting the old cemeteries that were full of ancient tombs. It was neat to browse the creepy voodoo shops. It was fun shopping for souvenirs in the not-so-creepy voodoo shops and stores all over the place. It was neat seeing all the statues and sculptures all over the area. It was neat having coffee and beignets at Cafe du Monde.

It was fun even to deal with the airports to fly out there and back- with a stop in Dallas both ways (Love Field)- even when our flights were delayed like crazy on the way back because of thunderstorms in the Dallas area on the Wednesday we got back.

We shared truffles. We shared our bodies. We shared our time and had a great time. I could not ask for a more perfect trip with my Hiker, even though not everything went perfectly. :-) He is the most amazing man and I am fully in love. Blessed, pleased, and happy.

~shrimpy, looking forward to starting our third year together (by the end of the month)

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:37pm
Sounds like a slice of heaven for so many reasons. You do give us all hope, my dear. Thank you for sharing with us!
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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 4:01pm

OMG! It sounds like it was a Harlequin Romance! HOW AWESOME! I'm sooo happy for you! You deserved it so!

Did you by chance have any deeper discussions about the both of you and where it is going?

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 5:03pm

Thanks Cat!

But no- no deep discussions. I like our relationship just where it is, and I think he does, too. I don't sense from him that he is wanting anything other than what we have right now, and letting things grow as they are. We're on the same page, and that's what counts. :-)

We enjoy each other immensely, and there is no rush. We just want to spend time with each other when we can, and just simply ENJOY life! Just WHERE would it need to go? (not a question directed at you- just hypothetical in general)

~shrimpy, happy with things JUST as they are

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:44pm

Yaye... you had Beignets!!!

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Fri, 08-03-2007 - 8:07pm

After your post, Soonee- and after the implied question by Cat before that- now I'm curious...

Just how fast do you guys think marriage should arrive after a couple has started dating??

Are you guys implying that we should at least be engaged by now or something? I don't think our 2 years of dating is "too long" for anything! If we'd waited this long to become exclusive, I'd had left a long time ago. If we'd waited this long to have sex, I'd have *fainted* a long time ago too. But to be engaged (because that is a HUGE step for me)- I don't think it's 'too long' for it to have not happened!

I'm in no hurry, and I've made that clear all along. And Hiker has too. We do want to be married again one day- but neither one of us is desperate for it. And whether we'd be married to each other or not... I can definitely see us being very good as a married couple. But like I said, I am not rushing for it!

***Edited to add***
My brother and his new wife met and got married between Dec 31st 06 and July 7th 07... and to me, that is waaaay fast! But I believe the time frame is something that has to work for the couple involved, not everyone else. But I am curious just what other types of time frames there are out there for others.

~shrimpy, always operating on a different timeline than the norm, apparently




Edited 8/3/2007 8:10 pm ET by shrimpychimps

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 9:27pm

No, no, no..... I never want to say anything should happen at any particular time.

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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 2:46pm

The trip sounds fabulous, glad you had a great time. I've alwayns wanted to go to the big easy, It's on my very long things I want to do in life list.

As far as when a couple should move forward, for me it would be never. I don't ever want to get married or live with anyone. My boyfriend would have to be happy being my permanent boyfriend, as long as that's what he wants nothing wrong with that!

I think what you and your Hiker have is very special and unique and it's what I would strive for in a relationship(if I ever get one). "If it ain't broke, why fix it" For me
personally the other stuff is way over rated, been there done that- didn't work for me.

Why mess with a good thing ?

The T Girl
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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 3:45pm

Thanks Taina- I totally agree. I love what Hiker and I have even though some have sort of freaked that we've dated "THAT long" and we're not engaged already! And it's annoying that even my Ex will give me a hard time about it. Geez....

What we have is what we have... and it sure isn't broken! So I'm not going to try to change it. I'm just going to enjoy it and let it evolve as it evolves. And I surely don't think I am wasting my time with him (even if we never get married)- because every day I get with him right now, is a huge blessing to me. Every DAY I get is just another day more- because life is just too short. I'm not going to live for some 'goal' but live for the day, live for the moment. :-)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that marriage doesn't HAVE to be like some grand end-goal of dating.

I do wonder if a woman having a shorter time-line for where a relationship goes and how fast it moves- might depend on her age. I'm sure it would shorten if she is wanting more children, and her clock is ticking. But for me- I don't want any more babies coming from THIS body... so there really is no time rush.

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sat, 08-04-2007 - 10:12pm
Wow Shrimpy, I can't believe it's been 2 years.
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 10:24am

The trip sounds fabulous! I'm so glad you and Hiker had such a great time.

As for your relationship, it works well, extremely well, for both of you. There's no need for it to be anything other than what it is, and I LOVE that you aren't saying "I'm happy with hiker, but I'd be happier if we were married" or some other thing.

As for someone's general timeline... that could be age, or it could be the way a person was raised, the expectations they've been given from birth.

I know for me, two years without being engaged isn't a problem at all, but I do know that I would like to be married again. I'm not into rushing, I want to make sure my second marriage is my last- and I don't have a time frame set in my mind. When it's right, it'll be right, and it's possible I will get married again.

However, if I never do, that's okay too. I don't believe being married will make me or my partner more committed to one another.

Moody, who thinks relationships are as individual as people


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