bad moment with BF and son
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bad moment with BF and son
| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:36am |
Hello all. I'm in process of separation/divorce from DH and have begun relationship with someone which has potential to grow more serious. BF met my DS (3 yr old) very briefly once and it went fine, but the other day we were to go out for lunch together and DS got very clingy and began to howl and whine when we stopped to pick up BF at his place. BF excused himself from the outing and I left with my cranky tot, feeling extremely sad, disappointed in myself (for not preparing the moment better) and frustrated. Haven't talked to BF yet since then (not on purpose; circumstances prevent it) but will see him at work tomorrow. Just seeking anyone's advice, reassurance, warnings, etc. Thank you.

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To answer your question, or rather, give my opinion, I think you should slow down with BF and not include your son in your activities with him. I think it is best to develop a relationship with BF slowly over time and see if he measures up to being kid worthy.
A 3yo is going to be very needy, especially with the sudden separation of his parents. He is not going to like a new person taking up mommy's time. And most toddlers don't like anyone taking up mommy's time.
It might be a good idea to get through the divorce and back on your own two feet before you get involved with anyone now. You will be in a better place and your son will be settled.
We are here for you no matter what you decide.
It's probably better to leave your ds with a babysitter or date when he's with his father.