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| Thu, 08-14-2008 - 1:57pm |
OK, Rose-specs, you got it!
For those of you who might not know, BE stands for Blue Eyes. Everyone (at least the women) who have met him always say the same thing....He has the prettiest blue eyes! So true! I love those eyes because they are not only the prettiest blue, but they are kind eyes, bright, and deep and they seem to say things even when he is quiet. I love looking into them :o)
So we are doing really well. Ever since BroomHilda was told to stop calling, she hasn't called. I felt relief almost right away after he told her, for good, to stop, a couple months ago. Its so strange but true- it had been the unspoken element of her presence (even though they were only talking on the phone) that was ruining us. I hated it, and that has been gone for a couple months. The after effect is that there is a comfortable sense of calm between us now. It feels easy and secure, the way I always wanted it to.
His drama daughter has also stopped coming into the picture. Now she seems fine (I hope for good- but at least she is stable for now). I think that when Broom Hilda used to call BE, she would stir up drama and worry about BEs daughter in conversation to him, and get him sucked into the dysfunctional loop back then. Stuff he did not need to be involved in, stuff she would make out to be much bigger than it really was. It think she did it because it was her one sure fire

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Thanks, Shrimps-
It feesl good to be in a secure place with him..happy, content. I used to thrive on sparks alone but these days I'm finding that getting settled and relaxed with someone who you can totally trust and STILL have sparks feels better.. I kind of see it like when hot summer turns to fall, the warmth is still there but so is the warm fuzzy sweater feeling.
And thanks for your words about the non-job. Yeah, it was a bummer.. but I already feel better and am looking to the future, knowing something even better is out there :o) For now, my current job is actually going better these past couple weeks so I'm not too stressed here anyway. Its all good ;o)
Thanks for indulging the request Pacific - What a great update on you and BE's.
I'm glad things are going so well for you Pac.
The only concern I've ever had was the drinking. Even though he's cut down, he is still an alcoholic and to me the desire to keep going once started is too high- it's got to be no booze at all in that case. But you've got your eyes wide open, and that's good !
That is such a nice update. Glad you feel more at peace with BE.
I think any talk about moving in should be only after YOU are 120% sure about his drinking and every other issue you had in the past. Only because it is a huge step for you with DD involved (not so much for BE in the context of responsibility).
For now enjoy these happy days and lets hope things get better every day and one day the moveing in will be so natural.
Sometimes moving in together just doesnt feel so comfy even with the person you love a lot. When I used to live in my apartment when Biker would come and I would really
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