Beach Day With RG
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Beach Day With RG
| Sun, 07-06-2008 - 10:40pm |
Its a roller coaster ride with RG. Went to the beach with him. Wore a two piece around him for the first time. Have swam with him a few times before but wore a one piece. I had been sunning in the two piece a lot this summer so I wanted to show a good tan. He seemed impressed and like looking which was a good boost to my ego. We had a great time. We always do. Snuggled on the sand and all in all had a good time. So things are up with RG now.
I think he has some intimacy issues. I would like to break the intimacy barrier with him. I would like to peel his outer layer and learn more about the inner person.
Laurie

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That is a roller coaster ride!!
I hate to be a pain but it does NOT change my gut feeling that you are going to go nowhere with him - because he is either here now and ready now or never ready - I don't think you can change someone - and not that much.
I guess this answers my question in a previous thread about why you were reading THAT book - LOL!!
Ultimately the decision is yours of course - and we are always here to listen.
Actually the only reason I am reading that book is because my sister forced it and a few other self help books on me. I guess she thinks I need work. But it turned out to be a great book not just for getting him to love you but for finding him too. So in the long run, whatever happens with RG, that book will help out.
Laurie
My take is for anyone who has "intimacy issues" then it takes a lot of personal work (e.g. therapy) to resolve it and not a romantic relationship to fix him/her.
Laurie, you have a long track record with RG and from what I understand that nothing really has changed.
I am getting some things out of this relationship. Not all that I want though. Right now I just want answers. So I asked him over for dinner tonight and will try to get an answer or two.
I am the type to hang on to things until the bitter end. Like my marriage. The list of cons was so long that there was not a single item on the pro side.
How was your weekend?
Laurie
I had one of the best weekends I have had in a LONG time!
We had good weather (not too hot, partly cloudy/sunny).
Glad you had a good time. Sounds like things are going well for you. Keep us women here updated.
Wish I could find an activity partner. I cant find anyone who likes to keep active. The only bf I had who liked to keep active like me was 10 years older than I and he struggled. But he did a lot better than any of the current men I have seen.
Laurie
I wont get answers. At least not tonight. He turned me down for dinner. He ignored my calls all day then answered when it was too late to plan a dinner. I think he did it on purpose. So a great day with him yesterday and a let down today. The ride continues. I am a gluten for pain.
Laurie
You know it's time to walk away.
I think you are right. But I will hear from him. There was a time when we werent exclusive and I was out with other people. But RG still called and wanted to get together once a week or so. Whats going to happen is were not going to be exclusive anymore. He's going to call once a week to get together. But then a day is going to come when I say, 'hey while I was waiting for you to call once a week I found someone who is active, wants me more than once a week and feels free to be intimate.'
Once a week is great if youre going to be casual about it and see other people. But to be exclusive and see each other once a week is just too little. At least for me.
Laurie
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