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| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 9:03pm |
I'm sorry. I have a new job as of a month ago and I've been busy there. iVillage is banned on our web access so I have literally no time to post. Shane and I are getting divorced. I issued an ultimatum of counseling or it's over. I was tired of waiting. Done. We will be doing paperwork soon. We are friends. It's okay. I almost moved back home but after getting my son back Wednesday, I talked to my son and he really wants to stay with his friends here. I think that was very adult of him to say what he wanted since he's so normally asking me what I want. Anyway, he recognized that he could have both if he stayed here....family in Marshall and friends here. Sweet kid. I am going to go to a classroom environment as of Fall. Shane will watch the kids 2 nights a week so I can. Just a couple hours. And as for visitation, well that is still drama, but I printed up a calendar of dates he needs to take his visits. I am going out with friends more now and need ME time just as he does. We both deserve that. I will say that on the 21st of this month, I will go on a very casual no worries date. A friend from high school that I recently got back in touch with has asked me out to drink some beers and hang out together. We talk and text all the time and he's such a sweetheart and we get along great. I figured it was harmless to hang with him sometimes. He is aware of my situation and knows where I stand. Of course it doesn't hurt that he's HOT! Anyway, I imagine this will cause a big stir on here, but I am not about getting attached. Just casual outtings to make me feel good about myself. I get hit on a lot. But I am very "whatever" about it.
Oh well, I should go. I am about to go back and touch up some paint in my bedroom. I am redoing all the house. Making it my own. It's gonna be gorgeous!
~Mel~

Hi Mel,
Thanks for the update. How is the new job going? Sorry to hear that you had to decide for a divorce in the end because I know you wanted things to work and for Shane to be a good hubby - but I think you know now that it is for your best interest to be finished because you can't be the only one pulling the relationship - it takes 2 - that is what stinks for everyone who is or who has been in that boat because if you could pull it by yourself and make it work surely you would. I have been there so I do understand.
I do hope you will give yourself time to get strong on your own now. It is so great that you will make your house YOUR home. And good that you have a new job. You have a clean slate now so to speak so you have to make the most of it. When I think back on my 6 years alone, I realize that even though I was lonely some of the time, I have accomplished a LOT with my business, my relationship with my DS and friends and my house and my sport. I am a whole new person with a lot to offer and a lot of confidence. It will take me much further than if I just started settling for someone right after my divorce.
But whatever you decide we are always here for you and always enjoy updates and stories. Keep us posted!
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