Being honest gets me in so much trouble!

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Being honest gets me in so much trouble!
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:42am

So, I've been talking to yet another guy from OLD. I know, I'm a maniac right now lol. We were talking about dating and such since our divorces, and I said well, I had one good relationship but that didn't end well. Well, he kept asking questions and with my pathetic honesty he comes right out and says "You're still hung up on this guy, and I really don't want to compete." I was just like umm ok?


I told him I'm not going to argue or sell myself.. if thats what he thinks then I can't change that.


So, in the end he still wanted to go out. Great guy on paper for me... funny, smart, quirky and I'm not seeing any hang-ups yet. His outlook is that he just wants to find someone that is happy. He feels like nothing can move forward unless you're both just really happy. I liked that.. so we'll see how it goes. No more ex talk for sure.. jeeze I almost blew it :/


Ugg.. I need to just shut up sometimes lol.


Update on Hemmy.. he has NOT called since his romantic drop-by kiss. Wow! I honestly thought to myself today "He's just not that into you" and smiled. I think the book itself was full of things that I felt I already knew and did. But being able to accept that line and just go on with a smile feels good. If I know Hemmy he'll call again, and we'll probably go out. But I"m thinking.. he's just not that into me! lol

"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:52am
Yeah, veer AWAY from ANY comvesations abotu X's!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 9:25am

It's always good advice to NOT open the Ex Files if you can possible help it.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 10:21am

I heard a good one the other day - "my exs have all taught me valuable lessons"

That is a positive spin - and true. We just needn't mention the lessons!!!

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:05pm

I feel your pain. I do this too and my brain will be screaming "SHUT UP! SHUT UP NOW!!" and I keep spewing verbal diarrhea LOL


Everyone else has said it already. Try to steer away from the ex-files lol