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| Thu, 01-29-2009 - 8:12am |
good morning,
we broke up. that's the short of it. I was actually in a very good place emotionally. i hope it lasts... yes, i could tell he really did fall in love with me. And i was able to say those words to him. (in person last nnight)
BUT.... the big issue was spending time together. he didn't see things as a blessing in disguise. he saw it as "this is not the kind of relationship i was looking for..." And there's nothing i can do about my work schedule or trouble getting a sitter sometimes. (spendng time with me and the children

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I'm sorry to read this Loony. But I am happy that you both were honest and more importantly, you stayed true to yourself and didn't let him leave you hanging on until summer. Stay strong!
~C
So sorry to hear, but I'm extremely proud of you. You held to your principles and you didn't compromise yourself to suit his needs, that my dear is being a true woman of substance. He will respect you for that, and
OH, Loony, I'm so sorry. It does kind of suck, but it is what it is. You may do better with a single dad that understands your time constraints. But you all were honest and that is good.
Lots of hugs to you.
Priscilla
Looney,
((((HUGS)))) I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but so proud of you for really thinking through what you want and need from a relationship. Also for walking away when you realized it couldn't work. I think Taina said it best:
"You held to your principles and you didn't compromise yourself to suit his needs, that my dear is being a true woman of substance. He will respect you for that, and if you would have caved in, trust me your relationship would have been doomed because he would lost respect for you, and it would have opened the door for worse behavior on his part. It's human nature."
It sucks but it is all part of the journey. If it is meant to be it will not pass you by. I just keep telling myself that! Hang in there, do something for yourself today! You deserve it!
i appreciate all of the support. my thing right now is i can't eat. nothing tastes good in my mouth and my stomach is sore too. anyone know of something good to eat... i ate a peanut butter and jelly sandwhich but it just felt so dry.. maybe i should get juice.
i did good last night though.... he said he was kinda hoping there would be a solution. and he said he didn't make up his mind really until last night. I suppose it's good that my thoughts have calmed down... no more speculating. i wanted him to remember the joyful me.. and not some hysterical ex, ya know. So when i could hear it in his voice ... i didn't take it personally. I just felt like there will be something better for both of us.
it was a good breakup though without finger pointing or blame... and a feeling of sincerity and truth. i couldn't have asked for anything more.... i will smile. (and hopefully eat)
Loonybunny
Loony,
I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you'd hoped.
it was a good breakup though without finger pointing or blame... and a feeling of sincerity and truth. i couldn't have asked for anything more.... i will smile. (and hopefully eat)
Loony----
First, I am sorry that things did not work out. I have to say though that I could not be more proud of you and more in awe of the person you are. You are bight, true, and so loving and understanding and wonderful. MM certainly knows what he is losing and that is why he is sad. He is losing beautiful person inside and out. He was honest though about his needs, and what can you do other than accept it. You are so wise to know that blaming and getting hurt and angry would have turned what you had into something negative.
Instead you showed your true self...a person of joy and faith and appreciation. Loony, your faith inspires me and
I'm so sorry to hear it turned out the way it did; but am really impressed with how you have handled it.
I am very sad for you and yes there will be some mourning, but I am also very proud of you!!!
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