Best Breakup Movies
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| Mon, 07-07-2008 - 6:40pm |
So I read an article a few weeks ago.. maybe on Yahoo or maybe Eharm... about great movies to watch while dealing with a breakup.. So i put them on my blockbuster cue and have been watching them.
So far I've seen "Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind" starring Jim Carey and Kate Winslet. Interesting movie but kinda weird. The theme is that there's a doctor who can errase every memory of someone and kate Winslet errases her boyfriend Jim Carey... So, he goes thru the same proces... This movie helped me see that even though there are some memories i'd like to errase, there are more that i'd like to keep.
The next one on the list was "High Fidelity" starring John Cusack.. the theme of this one is that John's character reflects about his worst five breakups... trying to figure out what happened and what's wrong with himself. What i learned from this is that most times a breakup is not about ME but about forces outside of my control. And probably meant for a reason.. Again, i should keep the good memories and move on. Overall, i didn't like the movie though.... wasn't his best character.
The next ones to come are "Lars and the Real Girl", "Closer", and of course "The Break Up". I'll let you know what i think of these.... i'm enjoying the pscychology of the movies, though... and i suppose it's better than watching romantic comedies and feeling really bad about not having a guy to think about or watch it with, etc... (not that a guy would watch a chick flick..but ya know what i mean)
Anyone else have a great break up movie... or any other movie that you watch for whatever reason???

I suppose you could put in "War of the Roses" - LOL!! Does anyone around here remember that one?
I don't know - I have been so disgusted with all of the ones I have dated and broken up with that I have not been sad - I have been irritated.
In fact I have not been checking my match account - and am sort of relishing my peace and quiet right now - so maybe I am not the best responder? LOL!!
I propose no more breakups around here - I am waving my magic wand that each one of us will find and keep the magic prince that is a) emotionally stable and generous b) has rose colored glasses to see and appreciate our good points instead of just our butts and boobs and c) is a good family man - OH - and he can afford to pay his own bills
Do you think that will work? ;-)
But seriously - I do love your idea of watching breakup movies - that way you can cry and get over it and totally relate to someone else going through one. I have seen the Break Up - but not the others - and am always looking for new movies so it would be great if you post a synopsis on the other three.
This one, "What i learned from this is that most times a breakup is not about ME but about forces outside of my control. And probably meant for a reason.. Again, i should keep the good memories and move on. " is SPOT ON!!
I remember "War of the Roses". I didn't like the movie when it came out though.
And the breakup movies is not all about the crying per se, but more about the pscychology.. it's kinda like therapy... but also, i love watching movies but
I have a hard time crying.. I guess its just me trying to be strong or something I don't know. I don't even really cry at funerals. So... sometimes when things are bad, or after being hurt or dumped I just want to have a reason to cry so I'll search on PPV for the most sappy movie I can find haha.
I watched PS I love you recently.. tore me up. Legonds of the Fall is a good cry too. I can't think of many others.. I actually don't do a lot of movies.
and by then, it was too late."
Definetly, Maybe is a good one- a single dad tells his daughter the story of him and her mother... quite well done- really enjoyed that one.
songs, too. I'm a huge music fan ... but there were some songs I could not listen to during the breakup period... those songs made me feel worse not better.. ya know....
like the song "Whatever it Takes" by Lifehouse.. when i heard that the day after my breakup ..... i wanted that to be how TG felt but it wasn't .... so
WOW - I like that title and concept a LOT - "Better as a Memory" - very very good find!!!
And I like your "bitter or better" saying too.
HUGS to you - I didn't realize you were still sad over TG - you could have fooled all of us with all of your happy posts - from the meetup groups to the karaoke contests and the great meals on your business trip - I truly thought you had moved onto better pastures - and perhaps that is just what you did - you are BETTER!!
I was thinking the other day - I have quite a few single friends. And some have become part of a couple - while others have not. And the difference between the two groups? The ones who have become part of a couple were willing to take a risk - to get out there - and risk their heart - and end up with a few dodos and break up - and then find "the one." Whereas the ones who did nothing - are still doing nothing.
So, see, you got out, stood up for yourself, had a little bump because he was not good enough, then dusted yourself off and fine tuned your wish list and now you are still getting out - and so I believe you will be in the "has a boyfriend" camp soon enough - no rush or deadline - but you are getting out and taking a risk and that is good!
sad over TG
I still have those moments.... i won't lie.... he was my first "boyfriend" in three years... he reminded me of how much i LIKE being a part of a couple... And like the song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBgNbSA4WdM
"Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind"