Best Ways to Get Over an Ex
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Best Ways to Get Over an Ex
| Wed, 09-12-2007 - 12:10pm |
What are your surefire ways to get over an ex? Revenge? A makeover? A girl’s night out? Help the brokenhearted and share your best ways to get over a breakup.




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cmstephanie
Hi there. I had to respond to this one. I am almost healed though I do think there is a bit more to do. My stbx and I were married for 10 years. He ran off with a coworker. I never wanted him back or dreamed of a reconcilliation because, he was emotionally abusive to me (not super severe and I'm to strong to let anyone turn me into a snivling pile of mush but, bad enough...telling me things like I was fat and stupid...I am neither). Anyway, the betrayal and damage to my family unit (we have two sons ages 5 and 8) were what pissed me off, that and being set aside. He never appologized or explained himself so, that made healing even harder. I buried my feelings for several months and then they exploded. After that, I started to feel better. I think I have a bit of post traumatic stress disorder because, I have nightmares about my best friend hanging out with my ex (just an example, there are other variations) and I wake up with my heart pounding in my chest and can't get back to sleep. I also think about "them" too much still. Things that I did from the getgo that helped/help alot were/are:
1. CARDIO ... take power walks and join a gym! This is a MUST! You have to look good!
2. Minor cosmetic stuff. I did laser hair removal on my pits and bikini-line. Also had microdermabrsion/mild chemical peel and a fresh haircut- a little trim, I am growing it out long at the moment (the laser was exspensive like $1400 but, the micro is only $150 and its $125 if you buy a set of 3 or more...that is doable for most, even if you have to ask for it as a holiday gift from your mom or something or save for a while).
3. Minor wardrobe adjustment at TJMaxx. Nothing crazy...bought a great Anne Klein suit, a few cute cloths and a mountain of hot underwear and bras. An a couple of great heels.
4. Reconnect with old girlfriends (myspace is GREAT for this). Try to go out with girls once a month (this has been a great one). Talk to guys and give em' a smooch but, don't foucs on landing a man at this time...you are probably not ready.
5. My neice got me going to chair/pole dancing fitness classes. It is SO much fun!!! Love it. It also knocks the guys socks off when they hear that you attend this sort of class...definitely gets their imaginations rolling and they know you are not going to be a dud in the foreplay department!
6. Make an order at adam&eve...I'm a fan of the "wascly wabbit". This will keep you satisified without having cheap sex (unless you are into that, the by all means get the goods!) until you are ready for a well adjusted relationship. I also ordered some cute lingere from adam&eve...it just sitting waiting in my drawer but, it was fun to buy! Some guy is going to get quite a show one day, between the lingere and the chair classes and being sexually repressed...I should be quite a hot ticket! ha, ha, ha...
I have been dealing with recovering from betrayal since Jan. My huge setback came when I took my kids on vacation (Hershey park). I melted down (on the inside) when I looked around and saw all the healthy, happy families and I was there with my shattered one. I raged for weeks following. Seriously, I lost it! I think it was because, I never properly dealt with my feelings in the first place, I was in this survival mode and just had to prove to the world and myself how strong I was (and I was). I have steadily begun to feel better (the Hershey thing was at the end of July). Good luck to you...and by that I mean, MAKE YOUR OWN LUCK GIRL! YOU WILL BE GREAT!!
Best,
Amy
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Awww...thanks for the hugs! I hope some part of my experiences can help others out there heal a little faster!
Best,
Amy
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