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Beware of Mom
| Sat, 10-27-2007 - 9:06pm |
I'm 24 and in the past 6 years i was in a relationship and have a 21 month old son...now i'm single... i'm not the expert in the dating scene...
well, one of my co-worker friend was joking (he's a guy) told me i should take my "baby aboard" sign off my car, that it will steer guys away... can this be true... in a way i would rather that they do steer away, since they are ppl who can't deal with single parents...
But he kept jokin' that i put myself off the market like that, what do you think?
what advice do you have for being back in the dating scene?

Hello lachefderouge and welcome to our board. Glad you found us!! Hope you stick around and post more.
The advice I have developed for single moms is don't change a thing or regret that you are a mom. Make sure you are not forgetting to take care of yourself with regards to looking your best and making enough time for yourself so you keep up your self esteem.
If you want to keep that sign on your car I think it is okay. Your baby is young and it seems right to you for his or her stage. And I think you are right to say that you want someone who is okay with a single parent and a baby - because that is what you are and there is nothing wrong with that.
When you find the right guy for you - who is really into you and really likes you for you - he will not mind that you have a child. He will be more concerned with pleasing you than sizing you up over things like that. Now granted, many men will want someone who is not a mom or who doesn't have kids - but you wouldn't have wanted these anyway because they are all about themselves and their own pleasures and not about finding someone dear and having a good relationship.
From what I have read, your age will make it more difficult to settle down than having a baby - because many of the women your age find it challenging that many of the men only want sex and to go to clubs or to pursue their own interests without the ties of a relationship. But not all. And there are plenty of women your age on this board who can relate and share stories. Our own Moodygreeneyes will come and write something very good I am sure.
Well, hi there, and welcome to the "you're-single-and-young-with-a-child-so-everyone-will-feel-free-to-give-you-unwanted-advice club"!
I've been a proud member for 7 years now.
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wow, i just wanted to say thank you so much for the advice that you guys gave.
Keep the sign if you like it.