Birthday Dilemma
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Birthday Dilemma
| Fri, 10-29-2004 - 9:50am |
Help me with this. Shane's birthday is November 26th. I have agoniszed over what to get him. He's hard to buy for. I had an idea, his cousin shot it down saying "he already has one, why does he need a new one?" It is a Ben Hogan golf bag. Shane's bags are old. I wanted to buy him a new one. So I looked into other things and nothing seemed right. So I just came out and asked Shane. He took me to the golf shop and showed me none other than a Ben Hogan golf bag. The one I had my eye on in the first place. I told him that was my first choice and had even looked at it, but his cousin said what he said, so I stopped right there.
Well, money is tight and the bag is $150.00. I know he wants it and I want him to have it. But he has asked me to please not get it because I need new clothes more than he needs that bag. Especially since he rarely golfs anymore. I feel so bad. I know I need new clothes really bad and he can always have the bag for Christmas, but I want to give him something special for his birthday. He named off a few sexual favors I can take care of....LOL!
If you knew money was tight and your man already asked you not to get the present, what would you do instead? I plan to take care of the sexual favors anyway, so that's no problem, but what else can I do? I just want his 35th to be special.
Mel

Maybe a different kind of bag - it could hold candles and.... (I will let you think of the rest!!)
To make this one more so, cook his favorite meal, dance in the living room to his favorite cd, light some candles, and enjoy one another. A rain check can be made up by you for the golf bag at a later date . . . like after the baby is born, you are in the new house, and you aren't living paycheck to paycheck.
Cut yourself some slack, Mel, you can't do it all, and you shouldn't even attempt to. Look at the financial mess it has put the two of you in before.
Mindy
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But he lost a nice chair he had when he worked at the last place. He left it and was going back to claim his belongings and they all took it upon themselves to divvy it all up between them and he lost his stuff.
He had a nice, nice Texas Longhorns chair for outside that he really misses. I found one for a good price. He also mentioned and showed me a book about Ben Hogan (his golf idol, hey, he's a hometown boy from Ft. Worth too) and I might get him both of those things instead and save the bag for Christmas if we can swing it. I still want him to have it, but under the circumstances with the extras we have to do in November, it just isn't something I think we can do and he's already said it wasn't that big of a deal to him. (His birthday, I mean). I want to take him out where ever he wants to go and perhaps have some friends come out with us. Dylan will be gone to his father's so we're free to go out child free that weekend. It all depends on if his mom wants us to come out for Thanksgiving. But it's Ft. Worth, after all, maybe we can go out that Friday night and get his old college buddies to come too!
All I know know is it will be special because I want it to be. And no matter what he gets, even if it's not a gift you can open, it will be fabulous because by then, he'll know what his child is (we find out the 23rd) and we'll be together.
Mel
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Mindy
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I had to have ultrasounds every two weeks to check on my ovaries (which were cystic and I had a few cysts rupture during the pregnancy) and because my amnio fluid was low. So every two weeks for months - I would go in and see my little girl. Her name was to be Aspen Lee. Went in at about my 7th month (after being told at month 4 and at every ultrasound since that it was a girl) - and my doctor, after checking all of the normal stuff, said "let's see that baby!" And then said "oh look, there HE is, He is fine, HE has his foot in his mouth!" Immediately I sat up and said "HE? It's a SHE!!!" And he laughed and said "we may have thought she was a she before - but look - there is his penis! It's definitely a boy! Maybe he's just been shy all these months . . . or maybe he is cold!!!" He laughed. I didn't laugh. I cried. Called TT (who wasn't at this particular appointment - he had been at practically every single other one) and said "Aspen has a penis!!!!" and started sobbing hysterically. TT and I both REALLY wanted a little girl. It took me quite awhile to get over it - and I refused to believe it - we did the nursery ultra-neutral, bought everything for the baby in yellow and mint green - and I prayed everynight that the baby would be born a girl. He wasn't. :)
I'm thrilled with my two boys now . . . and am anxiously awaiting the arrival of Aspen Lee - who be of the canine variety!
When I tell people my story - I hear dozens of others who have either been through the same thing or know someone who has. Unless someone has had an amnio or a new 3d ultrasound - I don't believe it.
Mindy
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I chose to be surprised. But I was surprised when they said, it's a boy!! For some reason I always thought it would be a girl.
But now that I have a boy I would never trade him for a girl!! Boys are really cool.
So you have 2 boys - how do you know for sure that you are done?
And what kind of dog are you getting? That is too funny you saved the name for that!!
I know for sure I am done for several reasons. One (and the biggest determination), I don't want anymore children, nor does my dh, who is 40. We have 4 kids, 2 his, one mine, and one ours, and feel extremely blessed. Two, I had 75% of my cervix removed due to cancer and if I were to get pregnant, it is EXTREMELY likely I would miscarry during the first trimester, and if I didn't, I would have to have the remainder of my cervix stitched shut and I would have to be on bed rest throughout my entire pregnancy. And three, as neither of us want any more children, my dh has had a vasectomy and his tests have come back that he is no longer fertile (YAY!!!!) Yep, I'm done!
We are planning on getting a "Pound Puppy" - and therefore aren't sure which kind we will end up with - as we are sure she will pick US - vs. us picking her - but we do know that we want a female. We are going to get her around Christmas time - and I am very excited thinking about finally having my little (or big???) Aspen Lee. I wonder if she'd like her dog house decorated in a whimsical garden theme? Ya think? LOL
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
I'm actually kind of relieved that I can get out of the Christmas present this year.